Hey, so the situation is me and my boyfriend have been more active than normal recently which is okay with me but the past couple times we’ve had sex i always just feel not good afterwards or during it I struggle to stay into it and in the moment. Most times it ends up with me asking him to stop or saying I need a minute to try and get a break and see if I just need to hit a reset button. I’ve talked to him about it but both of us have no idea what to do. Is this like a mindset thing or a birth control thing or is it just a result of us having sex more or….?

How often are you having sex? Are you really into it at the beginning? Do you orgasm every time & does he do clitoral stuff during the PIV bit? Are you on any other medications or stressed at the moment?

It’s not like it’s every day but there’s been times where it’s a few days in a row or it’s just generally a shorter time period in between. I haven’t orgasmed during and he sometimes does clit stuff during PIV but it’s not often yk. I’m not on other medications and I would say I’m relatively stressed with work and stuff but it’s not like ruining my everyday life

If you're doing it more often it just sounds like you are less interested and therefore you need more foreplay to get aroused. I know that for me I need some time in between having sex to kind of reset my desire. The more often we're doing it the less likely I am to be horny.