So I’ve been seeing a guy since April and I feel really bad but I want to cut it off. However I’m not sure if my reasons are justified. Something I’ve noticed he does is flip things on me all the time, so I will explain something (my opinion about a political issue just for an example) and he will end up turning it on me by saying I’m attacking him so I end up apologising but I haven’t even done anything. But then I feel like if I’ve made him feel a certain way then I HAVE to apologise to him. Another thing, he doesn’t have a job. He’s recently finished his university course but is not really searching for a job right now. It’s really off putting and I know that’s really shallow but he has always made it apparent he doesn’t want to work for anyone else but then he spends most of his days just not really doing anything and honestly it just feels like he has no ambition. But is this shallow reason to break up with someone? I mentioned about going on holiday and he said his parents will help him with it but it’s like?? To me it’s so unattractive and I know that sound shallow but I don’t wanna be dating a grown man who is still reliant on his parents (if he was disabled or something like that I would have NO issues, but he’s not). I feel really bad that I might have to do this but he just doesn’t seem interested. UGH IDK PLEASE HELP- THOUGHTS

If you wanna end it you can end it, whether you have a “justifiable” reason or not. Your reasons however are very valid imo. Why are you doubting yourself so much? Trust your instincts and do what’s right for you. I think misleading someone and staying in relationship/situation with them when you don’t want to be there is much worse than just ending things when you realise you don’t want to be with them.

None of that sounds attractive to be either boo. I don’t think it’s shallow to want someone who can be open to your opinions and have goals after school ends. You’re in your right mind to want more!

The turning things on you and saying you're attacking him every time you express an opinion is a huge red flag. This isn't a person you'll ever be able to have healthy disagreements/manage conflict with and that's ESSENTIAL in a relationship. I think you posted before about the "not wanting to work for anyone" thing that we all pointed out how that's the shallow and immature point of view, almost always used by useless bros with privilege and no concrete plans. Your reasons are all valid and you know it.

You don’t need to validate anything. If you want to leave, you should leave. However if it makes you feel better then yeah, your reasons are valid. He sounds like a jerk honestly 😅