Advice plz 😩. So I’ve been friends with this guy for a couple years now and he moved away. We kept in contact but lately I feel like he hasn’t been treating me right or felt taken advantage of. We are in no official relationship although we have done stuff.. I’m just not feeling it anymore and so I’ve been taking time for myself now he’s asking why I’m not taking to him and if I will when he moves back, but I have no fibre in my being to talk to him right now, but he’s spam calling me. WHAT do I do? 🥺

You need to set some boundaries and be straight up with him. I would get annoyed if someone I was talking to started to spam call me. If you’re not into taking to him anymore, you need to communicate that to him.

@Its_just_me while I get it’s hard to be harsh and straight up with people, he sounds like he can’t take a hint. Spam calling someone when clearly they aren’t texting and not interested is honestly just impolite and childish, and would annoy the hell out of me. He wasn’t nice to you, and you don’t owe him anything. I’d send a message that’s clear and polite, not harsh or mean if that’s what’s stopping you. You can literally say - hey, I’m not really interested in pursuing anything anymore or chatting. Don’t take it personally, I just don’t think this works and I’m just not feeling it anymore. Hope you have a great day. Or something. You get what I mean

@demigrrrl thanks. This makes sense. I will try to figure out what to say to him

I personally think you should tell him that you’re not interested or don’t want to continue the friendship as I don’t think it’s nice to ghost people. Spam calling is so immature and rude though

@Awg1 I think if he doesn’t take a direct message then ghosting is a valid option for sure

@demigrrrl Yeah obviously if she’s already straight up told him she doesn’t want to continue the friendship and he doesn’t respect that then she should ghost, wouldn’t really call that ghosting though x

I told him and he said he understood. A couple days later and he still won’t leave me alone ☹️

@Awg1 I told him to give me time and space and he’s not giving it to me

I’d block him then tbh