Im super depressed and angry at myself for giving my boyfriend another chance. I caught him cheating again only a few days after our 3 years. What do I do to deserve this😔

i’m so sorry, it won’t stop though if you keep giving him second chances, cheating is disloyalty and shows he has zero respect for you, you can leave him

You do deserve better, but you did not want to let him go. I hope this time you will not forgive him and start your journey of self love and healing so his actions don’t affect your future relationships.

I want you to really think about all the times you’ve told people to have standards, that certain behavior is disrespectful and cheating, and how adamant you were about it. This was all a projection because of your situation and what you’re going through. I hope you can leave him so you can begin to work on yourself, work on your traumas, and can learn to be in a healthy relationship where mutual trust and respect is the foundation.

You don’t deserve this but you need to start putting yourself first and stop tolerating being treated badly. He showed you who he is, someone who does not respect you or treat you well. You need to accept that he is not and never will be the person who you want him to be. And let him go.

Unfortunately he will continue to do so because forgiving a cheater and taking them back just let’s them take advantage of you. He’ll just keep cheating because he’ll think you’ll forgive him and get back together and that he can get away with it

@maeve_ what I said was disrespectful or cheating is my opinion and what i consider in my relationship, always has. The situation that I am in doesn’t base my opinions on things

I’d really recommend therapy. Your ideas of what cheating is are honestly very skewed, regardless of them being your opinion. Opinions can be respected but just because it’s your opinion doesn’t mean it’s correct. I think really getting down to the root of why you find things like watching porn, masturbation, etc disrespectful or cheating while still being in a relationship with someone who actively cheats on you will be really helpful to you and your future relationships.

Recommending therapy isn’t an unkind thing to say. If you take it as a personal attack that is on you and speaks volumes about how you view yourself.

What I mean is you always have something to say about how someone feels about something you always say they are wrong for feeling that watching porn is cheating. While there are people who disagree there are many people that think like me.

Again, I really recommend therapy. There are some very clear underlying issues here and I think going to therapy and working through them would be really beneficial to you and would help you have better relationships in the future.

Funny thing is this post isnt even about porn. And telling me to go to therapy because apparently porn is too normalized for you. All relationships are different and I have no idea where bringing up porn came from.

I’m not even talking about porn. You’re the one that brought it up? I’m talking about the fact that this isn’t true first time this man has cheated on you and you’re still with him. That’s obviously not okay and there’s some underlying issues that need to be worked on and addressed so that you can 1. Leave him. And 2. No be with someone who cheats on you.

Yea I definitely understand what you mean now I think I read ur comment wrong my fault.