Hi everyone. I just told my boyfriend I was bisexual and the way he reacted to it made me feel kinda bad. He said “it’s okay but I’m not very happy about it and I hope it changes”. I know for a fact that that’s not gonna change because it’s my sexual orientation and it’s a big part of who I am and I am proud of it. What should I do about it? He made me feel uncomfortable.

I think how he responded was very selfish. I don’t understand why he’s so bothered by your sexuality. You can’t just change ur sexuality for him, If he loves you then he needs to accept you for you, if he can’t do that then you deserve someone better.

What you should do? Break up with him. From that single thing he said in reply to you opening up you can tell a bunch of things. He doesn’t respect you at all and is just another biphobe. Thinking it’s just a phase and hoping you will change. On top of that he made it about himself by saying “he isn’t very happy”. It’s not for him to feel disappointed about your sexuality. Sexuality isn’t a choice. He does not sound like a pleasant person at all. I’d remove yourself from your situation and maybe take that opportunity to explore.

I don’t think it’s right that he said he hopes it changes. Also sounds like he could have trust issues rooted in biphobia. It sounds like he could be upset because he thinks you’ll want to be with a woman instead of him or maybe he just thinks women should not be with each other.

I mean do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t accept you as you are and wants you to change? I don’t think there’s any other solution here other than ending the relationship.

First of all, I'm so sorry. It's awful that someone you love and trust doesn't accept a crucial part of your identity. I agree with the others, you should break up. Beyond not wanting to date a biphobic/bigoted person on principle, he just disrespected a big part of who you are. He made you feel bad and ashamed of something you're proud of. A truly loving partner would never do that. You deserve so much better. When I came out as bisexual to my boyfriend he not only accepted it instantly but he soon became the biggest affirmer of my bisexuality and made me feel MORE comfortable with my identity that I did before.

Thank you so much everyone for your support and kind words. This has been on my mind all week and I feel more clarity now <3