Does this friendship seem like it's becoming one-sided?
I have a friend who has been going through a tough time lately. In short, she was the victim of an extremely elaborate scam where scammers posing as law enforcement convinced her she was a suspect in international money laundering, and used emotional abuse and manipulation to defraud her of huge amounts of money (if the scheme sounds far-fetched, her former academic advisor at our university was jailed for this exact crime so in our world it's totally plausible.) In the meantime she's graduated and applying for jobs which I've been supporting her with advice on materials, interviews, etc. In our field jobs are super competitive so as someone who did get a job I am super happy to help friends and colleagues however I can. Getting a job really is about insider knowledge and connections so I want to help level the playing field.
However lately it seems like every time she reaches out, it's for emotional support through a crisis or job advice. She lives in the city where I recently got engaged and was invited to the engagement but didn't come, which I understand because she had just found out about the scam and was dealing with a lot. But yesterday she texts me about a job interview and goes straight to the details and the prompt...I am all about not making engagements and weddings the only important events in our lives, but is it weird she didn't even acknowledge or congratulate me? Just something like btw congratulations and I'm sorry I couldn't make it! Just feels like we haven't talked about anything in my life in a while and getting engaged is a pretty major life event. What do y'all think, is she just stressed and is that understandable?
