How would you all feel if your significant other posted photos/tributes of an old flame/fling of theirs that passed away? It’s a touchy subject but my friend (who is currently in a relationship) has been posting about a guy friend of hers who recently passed away. My issue with this is that she had this fling with him while her and her current bf were in the “talking” stage. He is still clueless and doesn’t know anything ever happened between them. I understand her grieving the loss of this guy but I also feel it’s disrespectful to be posting about him, when she knows her bf can see the posts and he still think this other guy was just a friend of hers, I just feel that is on another level of disrespect. Thoughts?

The “talking” stage means there weren’t together so they probably weren’t exclusive yet. She was allowed to have a fling with this other guy while “talking” to her current boyfriend. As long as she wasn’t having a thing with her guy friend while being with her boyfriend, I don’t see what the issue would be with her posting tribute photos of her friend.

I don’t think it’s necessarily disrespectful, as it doesn’t sound like she cheated on either of them if there was no official relationship at the time. Even if things had already ended between her and the man that passed away, she likely still respected him as a person and she is allowed to grieve that loss. It’s ultimately between her and her boyfriend if she tells her history with the other man and it’s something they can discuss between them.

I think it's disrespectful of you to tell her how she should or shouldn't mourn her dead friend.

Her friend is dead and this is your problem with it?

I really don’t see why she can’t mourn her dead friend just because they used to be interested in each other at one point. It’s not like she will cheat with him or anything. She is grieving someone that passed away ffs

I think you’re being disrespectful for judging her and not minding your own business about her private life. A friend of hers died, for god’s sake.

Also, it’s not a “fling” if they were friends after all that happened. How can you even think of all this in such a situation?

I don’t see an issue with her posting about someone she’s mourning. What happened between them seems fairly minor and even if it wasn’t, it’s really not my your place to judge. I would leave this issue alone and either support your friend at this time or leave her the hell alone also.

@birb agreed

You absolutely dont have the right to have an issue with this and also you're being disrespectful by saying all that shame on you

Her friend died of course she’s allowed to mourn and post pictures about him. I think it’s absurd that you think it’s disrespectful. Even if it was her ex I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. Besides, unless in that “talking stage” they had agreed to be exclusive, there is nothing wrong with what she did

I don't understand why you think this is disrespectful! She is mourning her friend, even if it was an ex it doesn't matter. She is allowed mourn how she wants to. A good friend would be their for their friend during such a tough time rather than shaming them for how they choose to grieve.

It’s not even your issue. You’re being incredibly disrespectful. Be a good friend. My bf has things from his past and photos and I don’t care because it’s his past and memories.

Your friend lost someone she cares about. That's all that matters. If she cheated on her boyfriend (which it doesn't sound like she did), that's it's own issue. Let her memorialize the life of someone she lost if that's how her grief takes shape.

Leave her alone its none of your business.

@Twenty_four_ i wouldn’t care. that’s her way of grieving, she lost somebody important to her and it shouldn’t matter whether they talked or not. Her boyfriend should understand. she is allowed to grieve anyway she wants, it’s not disrespectful.