Boyfriend and I took a weekend vacation to the mountains. We were sitting drinking at a winery when he got a text from his coworker. She was saying how she’s going to the hospital and needs help and advice on finding someone to watch her kid. I just find it weird since she’s a 30 year old woman asking my boyfriend what she should do about her kid on a weekend ? (He’s her boss) and she has a husband.

He called her while sitting at the table. I was like ??

I did express that I don’t appreciate him calling her at the table and he apologized

Does he have kids himself? Did she ask him to call her?

@bLuerose9 he has no kids and I don’t think so. She sent him a text.

I think you’re definitely overthinking this. I talk to my coworkers that I’m close to about personal issues sometimes. Like, is he not allowed to speak to his work colleagues unless it’s strictly related to work?

@mAeve_ my issue is that she has hit on him before and asked to go on a trip in the middle of the night. My issue is also what does my boyfriend have to do with your kid? She’s constantly texting him and calling about personal issues

@Emotal then it’s up to your boyfriend to set boundaries with her.

@mAeve_ I don’t think he has or is doing that. I don’t want to be overly dramatic or protective either. Just want to know if this would weird other people out

You should talk to him about how it makes you feel. Only he can set boundaries with her and only if he wants to. If he doesn’t want to set boundaries or doesn’t see that this makes you uncomfortable then you need to decide if this is a dealbreaker for you or not.

I do think it’s odd to ask someone who doesn’t have kids for advice about childcare but I would assume she has contacted him because it’s a topic they’ve discussed before and he can give her advice, obviously he’s aware of her family/support system situation. I have coworkers who have become good friends so I don’t think it’s weird that they’re in contact outside of work and talking about personal topics. If you feel her behaviour is crossing a line then all you can do is tell him. If he doesn’t set boundaries/believes their relationship is appropriate and doesn’t need to change, then either you accept that and move on or decide this isn’t something you’re willing to accept and act accordingly.

I mean he is her boss? I kinda see this as her letting him know her situation for work purposes. As a boss I could see he talking to his employee even if he’s not on the clock. But it does seem like he could set some boundaries and make it more of a professional relationship. But that’s up to him.

@sTinaaa yeah definitely but it was on a Saturday and they don’t work Saturdays.

No offense but you sound really petty and selfish to me about this situation when someone's going to the hospital and needs help with their kid.