In need of some advice, I am with my boyfriend for about 3 years, my ex-boss is coming to town and asked to grab drinks just us Friday night… what should I do? These drinks are going to be with coworkers. O.O

I don’t understand what this has to do with being with your boyfriend for 3 years? You’re just two mature adults grabbing drinks, it’s not like you’re going on a date.

I don’t want my boyfriend to take it the wrong way 😓

@Shay1 No matter how long you two have been together, going out with friends/coworkers shouldn’t matter whatsoever!

Why would he take it the wrong way? All you need to say is “hey I’m going to grab drinks with my old boss that’s in town”, and if he has a problem with that, then that’s a red flag

This shouldn’t be an issue, if your boyfriend has an issue with this then that’s his issue to figure out not yours x

I don’t see the problem here?

Maybe I’m being to sensitive towards his feelings

@Shay1 what exactly do you think he would be upset by?

That maybe he isn’t invited

Maybe just overthinking

You’re allowed to do things outside of being with your boyfriend. He doesn’t need to be invited to every outing with your friends/ coworkers

Id see it as unhealthy to not have any life outside of your relationship (ie friends, individual self-care activities).

Thank you lovies for making me feel better lol

@Shay1 does your boyfriend come with you every time you see friends?

Most of the time because of our busy schedules we try and do everything together

Being independent and having balance (between school/work, friends, hobbies, partners, family) is super important while in a relationship. It’s good for you to do things without him x

You shouldn’t involve your boyfriend in everything. You should both live your own lives and hang out with your friends separately (unless the plans explicitly involve both of you as a couple). If you have a busy schedule, try to block out time where you are able to spend quality time together. Constantly merging your plans with plans that involve friends is not a good idea. It’s very important to find a balance. Your boyfriend shouldn’t be upset if you go for drinks with your old boss. He wasn’t invited, it’s none of his business, and you should feel free to go hang out with whomever you like. It’s 100% normal and okay to do certain things without him - that’s how it should be so you don’t get dependent on each other.

Why would your boyfriend take it the wrong way? How old are you guys?

Has he done things in the past that make you scared of his reaction? Because it really isn’t healthy to be thinking like that