Recently my schedule has gotten stressful (working 70-80 hour weeks currently) and while I take my pills consistently and have never missed one, I still get nervous that I will miss a pill because I work very long shifts and have so much going on. I also have had a little more anxiety than usual lately, including anxiety about getting pregnant. I want my bf of 4 years to start using condoms and I have set a boundary that I will not have sex unless it’s with a condom for my own comfort and peace of mind, and he’s threatened to break up with me and is not having sex with me unless we don’t use condoms because he thinks they smell bad. I’ve bought 2 different brands of them and he won’t even try. Does anyone know if there are other solutions or ways to explain this to him besides what I have tried (basically what I’ve written) or if it’s just on him now?

Also I’m considering getting an IUD but that doesn’t solve that my bf has had these ultimatums over condoms and it takes time to get one

Let him break up with you, wanting to use condoms for extra peace of mind is completely reasonable and it's so extreme and selfish that he would threaten to break up with you over this simple request. You're worried about an unwanted pregnancy and he is setting an ultimatum because they "smell bad"?? Ridiculous

Reading that he refuses to use condoms after you told him how you’re feeling and why you’re wanting to use them is honestly pissing me off so bad for you, it is not ok for him to be giving you an ultimatum over something that is necessary to ease your mind and prevent pregnancy if you do happen to accidentally miss a pill. I know you’ve been together for a long time but if he’s being like this about condoms i wouldn’t think it’s worth it to continue the relationship if he doesn’t stop acting like a child about it