Hi, me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years. Our sex drive has always been great. But since I’ve been on the pill my sex drive has dropped massively and it is starting to affect our relationship massively. We speak about it often which is great but I am thinking of maybe coming off the pill for a month or so to see if it is that what’s dropped my sex drive. (Obvs will be protected when trying to have sex without the pill)

Its not recommended to stop the pill for just a few months its dangerous and can increase ur risk for blood clots.

Definitely possible the pill is affecting your sex drive. Depending on how long you’ve been on it, your drive may change/increase as your body adjusts. For some people, they say their “automatic” desire decreases (how interested you are in the idea of sex in general) but yet they can still feel plenty of pleasure when arousal does develop. I don’t think you should feel pressured to have sex for the sake of it, however, if you were interested, you could explain to your boyfriend that you may simply need more foreplay or certain activities to engage that desire. Desire may not be as automatic now, but you may still be able to feel it if you let him try to get you there. I would say if your sex drive stays low, and you continue to feel dissatisfied about it, consider switching to another method. Or doubling up on methods like a condom + diaphragm.