Hi everyone! Need a tad advice please! My partner isn’t the greatest in bed and when it comes down to it will always make sure he’s satisfied and not myself so much. I always try to explain that I do need warming up a little and can’t just switch my mood in to wanting to have sex straight away. But he only foreplays for what feels like 2 seconds then gets to the main part straight away. I do find it frustrating and less pleasurable as I have explained this to him a few times before but is selfish and doesn’t listen. I know form previous relationships that the bedroom issue hasn’t been a problem but this time round I know I shouldn’t compare but I feel like I’m not getting much out of it pleasure wise or satisfaction due to him being selfish. I have tried to spice things up with some small toys but if it’s not something to satisfy him he’s not that interested. Not sure how many more times I have to tell him what to do which he then doesn’t as he is 7 years older and Should be able to communicate properly and listen. Any advice would be appreciated thank you!

If you’ve explained this to him more than 3 times and nothing has changed, in my opinion he’s fully aware and just doesn’t care. I personally would not continue to have sex with someone that selfish. I assume he’s quite selfish in other ways, not just in bed?

If you’ve told him this multiple times and nothing changes I would just leave the relationship. Real men will pleasure you. Find them!

Sex should be pleasurable and satisfying for both of you. If he doesn't understand that, get rid of him. Otherwise he's literally just treating you like a glorified sex doll. Get a strap on and peg him without foreplay since it would be for his pleasure, maybe then he'll understand //joke ofc

You've done everything you can and he's not willing to learn or put in more effort for your pleasure. This would be a dealbreaker for me, I'd leave. Since you say he's selfish not just inexperienced, makes me wonder what else he might be selfish about and not consider your needs?

Sex without foreplay is painful and can be damaging to the body. If you explained multiple times and he doesn’t incorporate foreplay, he knows and doesn’t care. Do you want to have sex with someone who doesn’t care about your safety, pleasure, and desires? No

What a dick. 🚩🚩🚩 he knows and just doesn’t care. Leave that asshole wtf. Like owww! That shit HURTS! I wouldn’t want to continue having sex with the someone if they kept hurting me!