sorry this is very TMI haha but i really need advice. So, me and my bf have been wanting to try anal for the first time and i had some issues with the whole washing part. I looked on the internet and i figured i had to put water in and then let it go, which i did, in the shower. But, i fear i might have done too much it was a disaster and very unpleasant which really made me not wanting to try again. But i still want to try this again in the future hoping for some tips that might make this less traumatizing hahaha. Again sorry for the tmi !!! thanks in advance!!

When it comes to anal, it’s super important to take things slow and listen to your body. Starting small can really help, so maybe consider using smaller toys or even just fingers to help you get used to the sensation. Communication with your boyfriend is key, too. Make sure you both feel comfortable talking about what feels good and what doesn’t. Also, don’t forget about relaxation! Taking your time and maybe doing some foreplay or even a warm bath can help ease any tension. And definitely use plenty of lube—it can make a huge difference in comfort. Remember, there’s no rush! If it doesn’t feel right, it’s totally okay to stop and try again another time. Aftercare is important too, so make sure to take care of each other afterward. I hope this helps a bit!

@rapunzel18 thanks for the advice!!!

Honestly if you wipe properly and rinse the area that’s all you need to do cleaning-wise. Anal comes with the possibility of poo, that’s something you need to accept. With anal I recommend starting with toys and work your way up size-wise and use a ton of water based lube. It’s not something you can just start doing one day. It requires a lot of preparation if you want it to be pleasant.

@Yi_eune I thought washing the inside could also be possible but apparently not the best? thanks a lot

@ghost_poetry it’s also possible but there is a lot of conflicting information about “douching”. A lot of people say it’s bad for you and I honestly never found it necessary to fully clean the inside.

@Yi_eune okay thanks for the info, the internet has mixed opinions as well haha

I think for my own peace of mind I would clean the inside as much as I could. Although I’ve been with my partner best part of four years now, I think that would be my most embarrassing moment but at the same time, I still keep in mind that it could happen and that’s okay. It’s something that both you and your partner should be okay with happening and not make a big deal of if it were to happen.

i’ve cleaned the inside before but didn’t get all the water out which i had to go get out before starting 😂 but i’ve also done without and just washing the area was fine too!

@onthepillxo i tried it as well but i think i put too much bc i felt like my while intestin flew out hahaha

haha i went to the toilet and the actual water i used to wash is all that came out lmao

@onthepillxo hahaha lucky. How much approximately have you used ?

water?

@onthepillxo yeah 🫠 i feel like i put way too much but im not sure since i used the shower head

i used a water bottle and also used too much i don’t really think you need to douche tho

@onthepillxo okay thank you so much !

Yeah I don’t think you neeeeed to douche. When I did anal with a partner I never did. There’s always a possibility of poop. Just don’t do anything when you have an upset stomach haha. Start with fingers and work your way up. Include live as well. Maybe put a towel down if you’re really worried. But just enjoy it and relax. If it hurts stop.

@stinaaa got it ! thank you