How can I fix my confidence? I find myself feeling so insecure and not confident in my relationship. I don’t know if I’m doing something wrong but I constantly feel like I’m in a competition with myself not being good enough. also, is it normal for guys to get hard from a movie? Like why would he even feel those things for a different women? I don’t know..

I feel like my insecurities are ruining my marriage

Attraction is a natural and normal thing, it’s instinct. Him getting an erection at a movie is normal. Not to invalidate your feelings, because I know that if I noticed an erection during a movie I would also feel insecure and jealous. It’s just kind of a mental note to make that it’s unfair to hold him to a standard that is unrealistic. I have founds lots of men attractive and that’s normal, I jsut don’t get an erection to prove it.

Guys gets random boners over anything, they don’t have full control over it. I think it’s best to work on your confidence and learning that you are worth it. Therapy can help xx

I doubt it's solely your insecurities. Your partner has proven to be untrustworthy since before you even got married. So it's no surprise you feel insecure sometimee

If your partner is making you feel like ur in competition with others then you should find someone else for ur wellbeing because that just isn’t fair on ur end.