I met this guy on tinder (scary I know) and we went on a date to coffee last week, called on the phone for two hours last week, and met up last night kinda randomly. I wasn’t expecting to have sex but we did , he was very sweet about it and we both wanted to. We used a condom and everything was going great until the end when he didn’t cum. And I was like “did you cum?” And he said no and I was like … why not LOL and he said that he only cums when he’s in a relationship… ok odd. He’s been single for 8 months, me for 3 months so I was just like whatever. The next morning (today) we had sex again, used a condom and at the end the same thing happened, so I asked again like did you cum and he said no. And I was like do you want to and he said yeah and so we started having sex again and he was like I have to go slow at first… ok so he does that and then speeds up and then just stops and like jumps off of me. Mind you we were both really enjoying it like really into each other lots of chemistry. And so I asked again if he came and he said no and then just said that he can stop himself from cumming and wants to save it until he’s in a Relationship. He’s also Jewish. Is this like normal? Red flag? Should I ghost him? I’m like confused lol bc I know he thinks im hot so like what’s the hold up ya know

It sounds like orgasming with a woman is something he only experiences in a relationship. Its a romantic/sexual boundary. You have to accept that you will continue this agreement and he will never cum inside you, or let him go and move onto another person

Tinder isn’t scary, lol I use it all the time. I would say it’s normal for him to but if you don’t vibe with it then you don’t have to see him again. Just seem like a personal thing for him. And I’m sure it made him feel some type of way with you asking every time. If you do decide to see him again, maybe don’t ask or worry if he cums. He doesn’t have to. You can still enjoy each other

Respect his boundaries if u don’t like it, don’t be with him.

Do you want to be in a relationship with him?

Let me reiterate, I’m not saying he’s like a weirdo I just never experienced anything like that so I was confused if that’s like a normal thing - don’t think I’m a bad person pls 😭

It’s totally normal if a guy doesn’t cum. 👍🏼 as long as both of yall enjoy it.

@User2000 idk yet, possibly he’s very sweet

I think it’s perfectly okay for him to have that boundary set in place. Stop asking him whether he came and just enjoy the sex.

I agree with above I think you should stop questioning him on it. I don’t think it’s that weird, I would believe he meant exactly as he said and I think you’re best to stop looking for a deeper meaning in what he’s doing. Also some guys are anxious about avoiding pregnancy etc so maybe that’s a factor? But yeah if you don’t like this maybe you’re best to find someone who you’re more compatible with