How do you stop focussing on looks? I know this is so shallow of me but I can’t get past looks whilst dating. I know looks fade and I’m not exactly gorgeous but I can’t dismiss that looks are somewhat important . I always feel really shallow

Do you mean for yourself or potential partners? I don’t think it’s bad to care what a possible future partner looks like, attraction is important.

For me looks do somewhat matter because I need to be attracted to my partner physically just like emotionally so I don’t think you are being shallow.

I don't think it's shallow but it's really true that attraction can grow over time and looks aren't everything. I think as long as you're not ruling out partner after partner over physical appearance if they are otherwise a good match with personality then you're fine