has anyone had an issue where your partner doesn’t really like your pet? how did you handle it? my cat has saved my life in more ways than one is one of my top priorities in life along with my partner, i’m just struggling to find a balance between the two

Unpopular opinion but I would put my pet first 🥲 if my man doesn’t like my pet, he has to go lol

What’s the reason for him not liking your cat? I’m a huge cat lover and I couldn’t be with someone who didn’t at least like them

@Princessdiam this is me lollll

What doesn't he like about your cat? Admittedly when I first started dating my boyfriend I wasn't really a dog person, but I was open to getting to know his dog and wanted to like him (and now he's my buddy and I love him!) Is it something he's willing to work on, or does he really actively dislike it?

I would also like to point out that you shouldn’t have to balance your time between your cat or your partner. Even if your partner is not a fan of cats they should at least respect you and your pet. For me personally is a massive red flag 🚩 if my partner would dislike my pets as they’re all so loving.

I think it’s strange unless they have some animal trauma I guess. My cat is amazing and I’ve never met anyone that didn’t love him. If they didn’t, that would be such a red flag lol

There was this one guy I saw that actually made sexual comments regarding my cat 😬 it was fkn WEIRD. And made me uncomfortable. I asked him to stop, but he did slip in a few more and every time I would stop what we were doing and walk away. I’m not seeing him anymore for lots of other reasons. Ppl are wack.

it’s kinda where he’s a big dog person (he has two dogs at home), so he’s not used to cat behavior 😅 like my cat tends to bite which isn’t a big deal to me but stresses him out a lot, things like that etc. he’s very understanding, & knows my cat is important to me & would never ask me to give that up, i just feel guilty at times because i don’t want my cat to be a nuisance in any way i think 🥲🥲

My bf has a cat and initially I was scared but I absolutely love that cat, like to the point where I’m visiting the cat while my bf is on vacation. If I had a pet and my partner didn’t like them, it would be a big deal honestly, as dramatic as that may sound.

How does your cat feel about your partner? lol it’s a weird question but if your cat is also uncomfortable around your partner I think that’s something to consider as well.

@sunflowersha there are definitely behaviors that my boyfriend's dog does that I find annoying, but truly all animals will do stuff we don't always like, they are living beings not stuffed toys. It wasn't that hard to get used to my bf's dog and with time you overlook that stuff because animals are wonderful and it's worth it. Tbh considering how important your cat is to you, I think that if your boyfriend really cared he'd make an effort to accept your cat and learn to get along with. He doesn't have to love every single behavior of the cat to eventually over time get used to it. Again, I wasn't a dog person but I learned to love my bf's dog. He's not a cat person and is literally allergic but would still support us getting a cat because he knows how much it means to me.

My partner wasn't keen on my dog for years but over the last few years, he's got to know her more and has really bonded with her now and will actually look after her on his days off! So maybe just need more time to get to know each other but he also has to remember your place is also your cats home so he needs to respect the cats boundaries as well as that can cause some trouble

I was on the not liking my ex-partners cat side for a while - he made it very clear how important the cat was, especially because he spent a lot of time alone and the cat was his companion and it was something he found a lot of comfort in. Because my partner was very open with how much it meant to him, I slowly but surely got used to the cat to the point where I liked being around him. My partner still respected that if I was around the cat for too long I’d start to get mild allergies (runny nose, and my eyes would itch a bit) so he would just tell the cat to move if he would be on top of me.