Advice needed: I have a friend who has two dogs that I ask to watch my small dog. Everytime I have asked her and her husband, it’s been like 3 months in advance minimum and it’s usually for two weeks at a time. Everytime she asks me, she only gives two weeks notice and then she always last minute adds a day, like oh we are coming back the next day or something. . And it’s harder for me because it’s me vs 3 dogs, but she has her husband who can help. I just feel like it’s unfair to give me such short notice, but I don’t want to ruin the relationship by saying that. What should I do you think?

I’m supposed to be watching them in a week, and she added a day and I said that addition of a day will be hard for me because I have a hard day at work on Monday and need to be up early. She didn’t really take that for answer and kept saying that it would be helpful.

Just tell her sorry, no, I'm not available that day.

@aUrielle I basically did and she said she was guna talk to her husband and then texted me and said that it’s going to add another hour to her trip to get the dogs that evening and it would make it easier on them.

@Bonyu tell them they need to arrange someone to pick up the dogs for that day because you’re occupied and you cannot do that day.

I agree with @Yi_eune and I think they're being really pushy and disrespectful when you're doing them a huge favor. I would reconsider this relationship because it kinda sounds like they are pushing you around.

@aurielle well the thing is that they have watched my dog as well. But always with months in advance. I told her to give me in advance notice next time and it has now turned into a full blown fight. I told her all I’m asking is advance notice and I’m happy to watch the dogs. And she told me I’m basically being really unfair and wrote me paragraphs about how bad I am basically.

@Bonyu oof yeah that's really not a friendship worth saving sadly

@Bonyu yeah she’s not a real friend. A friend would respect boundaries and your time.

I had a similar issue. We have 2 cats. One of his friends and girlfriend lived in our apartment block and also have 2 cats. They would always last minute ask us to watch their cats when they went away. It got to the point where they didn’t even bother asking they’d just expect us to. One time the girl send me a voicenote on her way to the airport saying they were going away and need the cats looking after. What if me and my partner had plans or simply didn’t want to do it?! My last straw was one time last minute the day of was told they need watching. She said they will be away 1 week. 1 week ended up being 2 weeks and she had the audacity to message me on her flight home asking me to ‘clean her apartment and put her washing away’ as she told her boyfriend she did it all before she left but didn’t. Safe to say I’ve not spoken with she since or looked after their cats! Speak up if it bothers you or people will just assume you are ok with it and potentially start to take advantage!