TW: depression Living my with someone who has depression is exhausting… She doesn’t wanna clean her side of the room when it’s been plentiful times she had said she will do it, ends up not doing it.

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My own depression is exhausting for me most times. The most you can do is be supportive. When I’m depressed and my room is a complete mess my bf or sister offers to sit with me and keep me company while I clean so I don’t feel alone and it also gives me a little motivation. Let them know that they don’t have to deep clean but pick up trash and clothes. It can help them feel so much better in knowing that they’ve gotten something done and maybe it’ll help bring them out of it a little bit :)

Have you thought about talking to your RA and getting another roommate?? You pay for the room too and shouldn’t have to live in a mess.

@Yellowaspect I’ve thought about that even though I’m more of a person who hates cleaning messes that I did not make. It’s just I want her to try and do something she can be proud of. Cleaning is like the first step to getting better but she neglects her words a lot that it causes friction between us. I try to let it be but I can only do so much. She is aware of her reasons and condition yet I leave it up to her to decide when she is ready to do that task. She has major depression so she tends to distract herself from her responsibilities

@Karmen98x the thing is, she is my cousin. Her brother and mother are no longer alive. I cannot tell her to leave nor would my dad allow it. Honestly, she needs us. It’s difficult but we have to bare with it

Tbh if she keeps it to her side of the room as long as she keeps it clean enough to not smell or be a health hazard I'd try to not worry about her side. Things that are a health or smell problem, or that spill onto your side, seem like simple enough tasks you can ask nicely for her to take care of right when you ask.

@xomaybell I’m not saying help her clean it. But maybe offer to keep her company or to even go with her to get the cleaning supplies she may need. And like other people said, if it’s not a health hazard or doesn’t smell maybe try to give her the time she needs to do it. When I get depressed I distract myself from responsibilities as well, including cleaning. But having someone to keep me company and motivate/ support me to do it goes a long way. I hope she does get better and learns some ways to cope with her depression besides from distracting herself. And I hope for your sake it gets cleaned and y’all can figure it out! XOXO

@Yellowaspect thank you <333