so i’ve been seeing this same partner for almost two years now and it never fails that i always end up with bv or yeast and im the point where im tired of taking medication. i’ve tried the boric acid the probiotics and still its the same cycle and he gets annoyed when i say i dont want to have sex anymore because firstly constantly taking medication is bad for you and its just tiring would i be wrong to just end the sexual relationship??? i made him use soap i use i wear cotton we shower before and after so im not understanding why the bv happens everytime its so frustrating 🥹🥹🥹

“ and now he’s like i don’t wanna touch you anymore so if you end up getting it again it’s not my fault “ mind you when there’s been months where we don’t have sex i have nothing no bv no yeast so yes it is his fault that i get it, but i can’t figure out why and every dr says men don’t have the parts for bv so they don’t need to take the medication but im starting to think yes they can carry it and that’s why i take the medication see him again and get it again

when did it start? did you start any new medication - like the pill?

What kind of soap is he using?

While he might not be able to get bv, it’s definitely possible he passes the bacteria’s back and forth.

also have you tried washing after sex? maybe the sweat and bacteria from it is playing a part in causing it

@onthepillxo it’s been since i first met him almost two years ago constant bv and yeast which is why im at a point of not wanting to do anything sexual with him anymore

@Yi_eune i had him start using dove unscented which is what i use down there because i know it doesn’t knock off my ph balance ive always used it even before i met him so i thought maybe if i have him use the same soap it would help but no luck

did you go on the pill when you first met him

just wondering because i had the same issue and it was because of my pill x

@onthepillxo yes we both shower before and after and we both brush our teeth before and i also pee after as well and still no change it’s so frustrating 🥲

@onthepillxo no, i haven’t been on any kind of birth control for a while i stopped taking it probably a year before i met him because i’ve tried 3 kinds and i didn’t like the side effects, i will say though the times that we have used condoms and didn’t do any oral those are the only times i didn’t get bv or yeast it’s like my body doesn’t like his fluids or something

sounds like your vagina’s pH is just really sensitive. ejaculation inside the vagina can change the pH level and cause yeast infections or bv

@Yi_eune that’s what i’m thinking also, because the times i made him wear a condom and i didnt let him do oral on me that’s been the only times where i didnt get bv or yeast which is frustrating because i

would like to be able to continue having our sexual relationship the way he wants but it’s not worth the constant infections ofc to him it’s not a hassle bc he’s not the one having to take the meds and deal with the consequences but i can’t deal w it anymore

i’d probably try booking a gp/gyno appointment (idk where you’re from) and see if they have any advice and use condoms and refrain from oral in the mean time as frustrating as it is

@onthepillxo yes i have went because i was so frustrated and she just recommended the things i already do such as probiotics, boric acid, cotton underwear etc basically nothing that they can do but i think im just gonna have to tell him i just rather stop completely and give my body some time to balance out

Just based on his shitty attitude alone and rude comments, I’d quit having sex with him regardless of if the BV issue gets resolved.

Just don't let him finish in you, it's a pretty easy solution and you don't need to stop having sex entirely.

Wait just re-read, if you're not on any birth control you should definitely be using condoms anyway!!

I would not continue to have sex with someone who said something horrible like that and made you feel even worse in this already upsetting situation. You’re meant to be a team. His main priority should be about your physical and mental health, not his own selfish desires 🤬

@Sams2095 I’ve only just seen this as I scrolled past this originally! Oh my god he’s terrible 😭 @faith11 he does not deserve you at all. Why are you allowing him to talk to you like that???

@aurielle he doesn’t finish in me i don’t let him do it

@bluerose9 i agree i told him i don’t want to have sex with him at all anymore for a while and he’s not happy about that 🙄 but i told him i really don’t care lol im over it

@Yi_eune oh i definitely told him off so he could realize how selfish he’s being only thinking about himself

@faith11 either way precum can get you pregnant so unless you’re happy with becoming pregnant i would probably stick to condoms x