Boyfriend , who is 36, unsure of relationship after almost a year. When we started dating a year ago he told me that he is looking for marriage and children and that is his goal. After maybe 8 months he left me due to his mental health and not being able to meet my needs. We seperate for a couple months and he came back telling me he feels a lot better and is ready to put me as a priority and I gave him another chance. He is in the military is supposed to be moving to another country for years in 5 months and asked me to basically get married come with him and live with him there. I would be uprooting my whole life and my career to go but I agreed because that’s what love is. Now after one and half months being back together again, I posed the question of where he is at in the relationship and why he isn’t really making any plans or helping me plan for moving. (And also is never saying he’s excited). He basically answered with that he’s unsure of me again and unsure he can handle a marriage and put others first above him (me and future kids). He brought up a long distance relationship from that country instead of committing to me. He also brought him “let’s just wait a little longer to see if I’m unsure still”. I left. is he showing a clear example of him stringing me along?

You were absolutely right not to uproot your whole life and move to another country for someone who isn't sure about you

Good thing you left. Don’t waste your time.

I would move on especially since this is you guy’s second try it didn’t work, it led to you guys being right back to the original reason why you guys broke up in the first place.

Yes he’s a red flag

Yes. Being 36 and still playing games and not knowing what you want? Red flag. Never go back to him!!

So when I left I said “this is f**** up, I don’t deserve this. You need to start thinking of others and not just yourself.” And went home. Haven’t gotten any kind of text or anything. Was this an implication that I broke up with him? What else do I do?

You’ve made the right decision, you would 100% regret uprooting your life and moving country for someone who isn’t sure of what he wants. If that’s all you said then no i don’t think it’s clear that you’ve ended the relationship. If he responds you can state the relationship is over.

@Bonyu don’t overthink it. Block and focus on yourself x