hi i’m on microgynon 30 and have been for the last 3 months, i’ve noticed my sex drive is disappearing, i no longer want to have sex with my partner and it feels like more of an obligation/chore to have sex with him rather than a good experience, could this be because of my pill?

Birth control can impact libido but if it feels like an obligation then I would personally think it’s more to do with the relationship or your personal life. Are you guys okay? Are you spending quality time together? Is effort being made on both sides? Did something happen recently? How is your mental state? How do you feel day to day? Is sex something you worry about?

Potentially but multiple other things can affect it, general health, stress, body image, relationship issues etc. Have you guys tried to spice things up? Go on dates or do something different? Don’t force yourself to have sex if you don’t want to

@Yi_eune we do spend quality time together and he puts in so much effort, my mental state is okay been a bit on the bad side but nothing major, i don’t worry about sex and he hasn’t done anything wrong, i tend to get kind of bored in relationships but i dont want to hurt him, i still have feelings for him but i can feel myself slowly starting to get bored again but he genuinely is the nicest most caring boy i’ve met and i dont want to leave him but i think the fact i dont want to have sex anymore is the start of it i just dont want to accept that

@bluerose9 we don’t ever really go on dates, been together 5 months and only been on one but i don’t mind that, it’s because of financial problems atm but i’d prefer to stay in anyways

@erobertson45 you don’t need to spend money on dates, you can just go for a walk or it can be just taking time to cook and eat dinner together or have a movie night on the sofa x

@erobertson45 what about (romantic) efforts from your side? You say you’re becoming bored but why is that? Do you know? Would it be worth talking to a therapist about as you seem to know it’s something repetitive? I definitely think it’s time to act if you want this relationship to last, as someone being nice and caring is not a reason to stay. They deserve to be loved in the right way.

@erobertson45 is it just that you're moving past the honeymoon stage?