Every time i wear my bf’s sweater i start to cry, is that too pathetic? I don’t wanna be too dependent or clingy, but i just can’t help but feelings sad when I’m wearing it, it still has his smell :(

Why are you sad?

If it makes you feel that sad I’d avoid wearing it

I understand as you are in a long distance relationship but at some point you’re really going to have to learn to deal with the distance. It’s been a few months since you last saw him and if you still cry a lot because you miss him that might be a sign you can’t handle long distance, sorry. I would stop wearing the sweater because it has a negative impact on you.

@yi_eune I’ve been trying to handle the distance for almost 3 years now So no I can handle it, but it’s just hard I’m not gonna just stop missing him someday

@Connie71c it’s easy not to miss someone if you’ve never met up before as you won’t have as an emotional connection until then. You’ve been having these feelings since you’ve met up and left and it’s totally normal to miss someone but to constantly be sad and crying is really unhealthy for your mental state. I’m just trying to give you advice.

@Yi_eune I didn’t say I’m always crying But sometimes i do feel sad, so i guess your answer is yes It is too pathetic to feel like this

@Yi_eune i did miss him before too, meeting didn’t make my feelings before any less real It’s just that now i have actual memories of us together and it’s a bit harder

@Connie71c I wouldn’t say it’s pathetic but being sad often about missing him does turn unhealthy because often people start to linger in sadness and it will have a real impact on their mental health. Missing someone before and after you’ve actually met them is very different. Doesn’t mean your feelings were any less real before but there is a stronger emotional connection as you’ve met now. What you could try is keeping yourself busy with a job, hobby or friends, something you enjoy, so you have less time to think about it. Or Meet up more often, which isn’t always possible but it could be beneficial to the situation. If you keep being sad for another long time I would honestly doubt that long distance is doable for you, how harsh it might sound because I am aware you love him. But love isn’t always enough. I am in a LD relationship as well and of course I miss him but it’s not a reason to feel down - instead you should feel blessed it’s even possible to do long distance with current technology as you can still communicate almost instantly.

@Yi_eune you already know I’ve been trying, so please don’t say things to bring me more down I’ve been really busy lately, whether that’s because of school or extra curricular activities I am trying with all my heart to make this work And you also know, we live too far away to see each other more often, But i still do get sad, and I don’t think i will ever stop being sad about it

@Connie71c I’m not trying to bring you down at all. I am really just giving you advice.