Hi.. So I have been dating my boyfriend for nearly a year and a half. And I doubt sometimes I’m in love. I don’t know if I have ever been in love before and if I have thought I have been, it always turned out to be toxic or love bombing. Our relationship for the most part is good I can feel comfortable and safe around him and he gets along with my family and friends. I just think I’m lacking a deep connection. I sometimes feel our relationship is child like and not serious. We can have serious conversations but they lack depth. I just wondered if anyone can describe the love they have had or are experiencing for someone.

Emotional intimacy can be built and improved, in fact I would say it doesn't exist automatically and it's something you always have to be working on in a relationship. I felt I lacked emotional intimacy/depth in the early stages of my relationship so I brought it up with my boyfriend and we found ways to improve it. Also when you're used to toxic relationships healthy love can sometimes feel "boring"

Yes I totally get this every relationship before my current was toxic and I felt I always had to chase for love. Everyone I dated prior lacked commitment, so I was constantly trying to find myself worthy of changing their mind. This relationship however is completely different I know he loves me. But I have just been thinking lately do I know what exactly love feels like. But I guess the feeling of being ‘bored’ is because I’m not having to chase. Thank you for your response.