Hello, sometimes when there’s a drop in communication from my boyfriend or if things aren’t the same everyday I tend to ask if we are ok or if everything is ok and I feel anxious. Im trying to practice to give people space because i can be overwhelming. We talk everyday but if something changes I result to something is wrong and I don’t want to constantly ask him for reassurance on that. Does this happen to anyone and how can I stick to my promise of not asking and self soothing.

It sounds like you're dealing with insecure attachment, working on building security and confidence in your relationship with yourself could help! The more secure and confident you feel about yourself, the more security you will have in your relationships. It's reminding yourself that you can take care of your own emotional needs and you'll be okay even if things in your relationship aren't okay. Therapy can be really beneficial. In terms of practical self-soothing strategies, when you're starting to feel anxious engage in some type of hobby you really enjoy, I find that meditative and repetitive motions are really helpful for me like coloring, making crafts with my hands, movement, and journaling. Do something you really enjoy by yourself to prove to yourself that you are your own good company and while you love your boyfriend you don't NEED him every second.

Thank you! That sounds very good. Every time I feel this way everything seems to be okay and he reaches out but I can’t always be happy when he calls. I have to be happy on my own and reassure myself too