Hi girls, right I need some advice as I’m at a loss now. My partner suffers with really bad mental health to the point he threatens to end his life. I’ve suggested going to the doctors, therapy ect and even things which I’ve studied in the past as worked in mental health previously. He point blank refuses to go doctors, and I’m just at a loss anymore. Any advice please. Thanks x

If he refuses to go to a doctor I feel like all you can do is continue encouraging him and trying to be there for him. It shouldn’t be your job to be his therapist, you can only take so much!

Make sure he never uses you as a threat for wanting to take his life!! All you can do is trying making him feel better about going to see someone maybe? Maybe there’s even something you guys can figure out where he’ll feel more comfortable going if you went with him?

@gIrlygirl77 I literally feel like his therapist, sometimes him letting stuff out gets me so down and there’s times I’ve had to ask him to turn music off in my car because it’s been such depressing songs.

@sTz17 I’ve even said to him if I go with him will he go and he just point blank refuses. I’ve been to the doctors with him before in the past multiple times and he says there is no point to medication because it doesn’t work, he won’t even accept it takes a good 4-6 weeks to fully kick in and the dose needs to be the right dose.

@Blossoms I’m sure you love him incredibly but you can’t let yourself be getting down trying to keep someone else up. I had a similar situation with my boyfriend when we started out where he put everything on me and hated his life and just brought me into it. It wasn’t easy but I told him that I can’t do that I can’t be his therapist and I convinced him to talk to someone. It made such a difference, you’d think nothing ever happened now that he has been talking to someone for awhile. I hope you are able to get your guy help for the sake of you both! :)

@girlygirl77 literally what you’ve said about how your boyfriend when you first started out put everything on you, that’s exactly what mine does. I love him to pieces, but sometimes even brings my mood really low, to the point my parents have noticed it (I rarely see them!) I’m gonna give it a go what you said and go from there. Thanks so much for the advice. It really means a lot xx

There’s only so much you can do, if he doesn’t want to help himself then you may have to just end it as you shouldn’t sacrifice your own mental health for him x