Hiii My fiancé and I got invited to a destination wedding this coming april. The person getting married is a mutual friend we’ve had since we were in high school. We’d already told that we’d be attending. Around the same time we’d said yes, my fiancé and I got engaged and are now in the process of buying our first home. My cousin just messaged me if my fiancé and I would be attending his wedding this coming June (he talked vaguely about his wedding sometime last year when he wasn’t sure what the date was yet and I hadn’t made any promises I’d be attending). This wedding is also overseas. Thing is, we’ve bought our tickets to my other friends wedding already and are saving up for the house and have no money to budget for my cousins wedding. We’re also travelling with friends so it’s also kind of our last “hurrah” for a while since we won’t be travelling as much once we start paying for our mortgage and saving up for our wedding. How would you say no and what would you say? No one really knows that we’re buying a house yet since we don’t wna announce the news until we’ve signed the papers. And he’ll see tagged photos of us attending our friends wedding.

Note: only immediate family, very close relatives on my fiancé’s side and close friends know about the house.

Just be straight up and say you aren’t able to go as you’ve already paid to attend another overseas wedding and don’t have the budget for another one and can’t get the time off work. They have no reason to be upset as they can’t expect people to spend that much and use their time off

Just tell them you don’t have the money to attend this wedding. When you have an oversea wedding you can’t expect everyone to come in the first place.

I think that’s the problem people will run into when they have destination weddings. Just be honest and say you’ve already committed to another destination wedding and getting time off work is hard and money is tight.

People that have weddings in another country or destination weddings are prepared already for a lot of “No”s so don’t worry!