how do you guys distance from people? i have these two people in my life - one is closer to me because she’s a family member (cousin) and one girl i rarely ever to talk to anyway. but i feel like i want to completely distance and barely see them without making it look as if i am doing so (i’m too tired for a dramatic exit.) the reason is -> they’re kinda rude and whenever i speak to BOTH of them, i sometimes get the sh***y end of the stick and the girl i am kinda friends with is very aggressive to me whilst my cousin never defends me. ++ she’s likely to go side with the other friend and basically joins in on it but when it’s just me and & my cousin, she’s likely to agree with how rude the friend is., yet she never stands up for me. this happens so often and i’m sorta sick of it, so i feel like i should just ghost

I usually stop meeting them and only reply to text that are of my own interests.

^ you don’t owe them anything, your peace is definitely worth more in the long run if it’s draining you.

I became friends with the nastiest person ever last summer. It lasted a year before I just ghosted her completely. She yelled at me while i was driving her somewhere once (doing her a favour lol), she belittled me, minimized my accomplishments, straight up ignored me when i got excited about things and would turn her attention to someone else, and talked crap about me to my coworkers (and she was our manager!! And they knew we were close!!). Thats not even all of it. She was awful, she got demoted, nearly everyone quit because of her and she moved away. But I knew her from the beginning and she was one of the closest people I got to know so it hurt deeply. Anyway, disgusting behaviour. I know people are against ghosting someone but you absolutely owe NOOOTHING to anyone when they’re horrible to you. I had a whole text typed out to send to her about how she needs to fix herself but i knew it would be a waste of time. I later found out through HER close friend that nothing I’ll say would make her look at herself and take blame and that really she’s ruined all her friendships. Anyway, that was also me getting it off my own chest lol. If someone is truly ugly on the inside, they’re not gonna change. Hopefully they seek therapy, in the meantime take care of yourself. Just never reply again, they’ll get the hint.

@Yi_eune thank you

@seechell very true! thank you

@trashmule omg that sounds so awful, you do not deserve that! i had an ex friend like that too and she harassed me online for more than two years. she was literally unhinged and she showed her true colours to me 2 years ago. thank you for sharing and honestly ? yeah. i think i will probably just ghost. it’s going to be a bit hard bc the acquaintance-like friend might be quite persistent. thank you for replying!