I have been dating my boyfriend official 3 months but total 6 months and he says his feelings are growing but that he’s not in love yet/ love me yet. That scares me a little. Should I give it time? He mentioned he’s scared to love again but that he’s trying to open up and can see himself getting there 😞

I think it’s okay because he’s communicating with you about what is going on and how he’s feeling. Some people need more time than others. Something that could help him is seeing a therapist about this fears of love.

Yes he started seeing a therapist but I have to work on letting it go

What’s the point in dating someone if they’re constantly like eventually I may love u ? I’d feel so unloved

Yeah that’s where I’m at

But I do know some people do take time

Personally, I find love takes time. I didn’t truly fall in love with my past partners until 6 months to a year in the relationship. I don’t think it’s something as simple as hanging out and being around one person constantly.

@GhostFaceLov @Horrorfan18 but how can you love someone without dating them?

Yes I see that it can take time and obviously I can’t control or forces. I’ll give it more time to see if it grows

@aurielle they’ve been together 6 months it’s like u date someone see if u like them and by the 4 month mark u should know if u love them if not what’s the point

It’s not that simple. Love is a feeling that grows. My bf and I didn’t say I love you til maybe the 4-5 month mark and although I loved him, I wasn’t IN love with him yet. That feeling has grown and now after a year together I can say that I’m in love with him. Give it time.

Ok I will give it time

Try not to give in to this all or nothing mentality. All relationships are different and hit milestones at different times. Fretting about when you hit yours will only add pressure and lead to resentment.

@Horrorfan18 loving someone and being in love are very different things.

Yess this has been a little hard for me today but I’m going to try to be positive

I personally find it more of a red flag if someone rushes into saying "I love you." If you're looking to be with someone long-term or even the rest of your life, what's the need to rush it? Slow burn ftw. You're definitely allowed to have a timeline though. If you find he's not matching your feelings after say, a year you can decide you don't wait to wait around. One thing you haven't mentioned is whether YOU love him and whether you've told him that.

I did tell him I have feelings of love for him but I guess I’m scared it won’t ever be reciprocated

My emotions go fast and he has always told me from the beginning it takes time for him

You need to make a decision whether you can give him more time or not. If you can’t then you need to let him go but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal because he’s being honest with you and communicative.

This is normal, I’ve felt the same way before. It just took me some time to get there. Be patient ;)

Taking some time may mean he’s assessing the relationship which is completely fine, as others said, it is a good thing that he’s being upfront instead of leading you on. Make sure you tell him to be as open as possible with those types of feelings, just make sure you can handle it.

Thank you!! I guess in my experiences it just happened and it wasn’t spoken about but I have been worried it’s not been like my past and then he was honest of where he’s at and I’m hoping it grows