Does anyone else experience this constantly?: Im always the girl a guy is with before he gets into a serious relationship. It really makes me question myself and what Im doing wrong. Clearly I need to raise my standards but im 22 and never been in a relationship- just long flings that end up with my getting my heart broken. Ive avoided sex and am choosing to be celibate until someone is worthy. This is the change im doing but it still gets to me and feels disheartening to feel like Im never enough. I just want to feel wanted.

What’s your mindset going into these relationships? Are you fully fulfilled on your own or do you feel like you need a relationship to feel good about yourself? You are 100% worthy of love and everything you’re looking for!! It certainly has nothing to do with your value as a person but might be impacted by your approach to dating. If you want to be celibate bc that’s what you want to do definitely go for it!! But I don’t think it’s going to materially impact the chances of a successful relationship. All my long-term relationships for example started w sex on the 3rd or 4th date.

When you go through experiences in life that the same thing is happening over and over and over again, you should try to change your outlook. What are you doing, how you’re doing it, why. Etc. In your other post you said he didn’t treat you well, then why stay? A good partner will treat you well. But reoccurring life events means you’re putting yourself in the same situations over and over again. And the only way to get out of them, is something has to change. You have to learn from these experiences. And in no way am I saying you’re not worthy or you’re not enough. Please don’t take it that way. But it keeps happening for a reason, only you know, and only you can make a change.

Well if you think about it at some point everyone is the person that someone else is with before they get into a serious relationship. That's just how things work if you've dated multiple people so you may be reading into a pattern that's not really there. I hooked up with multiple guys casually who said they weren't looking for anything serious who a few months later got into relationships, one got married within the year lol. But that doesn't reflect on me or have anything to do with my own worth. Regarding the wanting to feel wanted part, that really has to come from within yourself and not from an outside source. When you can love and validate yourself you won't see other people's treatment of you as a reflection of your worth.