Marriage Does anyone ever feel really conflicted about getting married, like one minute it’s all I want and other times it’s just not something I want. I’m currently in a new relationship and the guy said if that was to ever happen he would want a very small private ceremony and I’ve always imagined a huge one but then I kinda like the way he imagines it. What does everyone think private or big?

I would want it to be private; I am a very introverted person and I hate large crowds. I’d also only want my close ones there not my cousins I see once in a blue moon. That’s just me though.

@Yi_eune I think that’s the same as him would you ever compromise if you don’t mind me asking? But I can completely understand it and the more I think about it the nicer it seems

@Ambeeeeee123 I think I could compromise for a “medium” wedding if that makes sense? Just inbetween big and small. I could not agree to a big one all together, that just isn’t me and a big day like that needs to feel right.

@Yi_eune I get that completely I suppose it’s more about the person your choosing rather than a big grand ceremony

I feel this about having babies for sure, I’m still single so idk if it’ll be different when I’m with someone seriously but being an Aunt is pretty fulfilling. Wedding wise personally I’d want it very private or maybe elope then have a smallish party later.

From the sounds of it you have different ideas of what kind of *wedding* you imagine yourself having, marriage is not just the wedding. I think finances will really dictate what kind of wedding I’d end up having lol, I personally would prefer something small over a huge one anyway.

Personally I would have a private wedding & I would do it in the Caribbean (my family and my boyfriends family are both from Caribbean culture) I would only invite my closest friends and my SO’s closest friends then have a gathering (which would be the after wedding part) for whoever else is not close but I consider friends. I’m not really a big fan inviting people who I don’t know & who I’ve never had a full blown conversation with as far as hi how are you at something very meaningful for a relationship so I definitely wouldn’t have enough bodies to ever have a big wedding lol

@Awg1 I’m the same on the kids thing! I love being an aunt and being able to send the kids home at the end of the day haha. I love them but I’m nowhere near ready to “sacrifice” my freedom for a little one and I’m not sure I’ll ever be.

Yeah I felt the same way until I had been with my current partner for several years and then I could finally start to envision marriage with him. In an ideal world I would love to have a small wedding but family is really important to us and we both have huge families so that's just not going to be possible.

Me and my partner eloped abroad and we had 2 random witnesses from the company we used so was technically just us. Wouldn’t have had it any other way. The thought of a big wedding and all eyes on me made me cringe, they look beautiful but not for me personally and my partner feels the same. Plus we saved an absolute fortune!