I’m not sure if there’s an TW needed for this so just be aware if you read. Only fans, broken trust in need of advice! I haven’t had to post on here in a long long time, I’m in a 2 year relationship I’ve recently moved 3 hours away from my friends and family to move in with my boyfriend. In the past we have spoke about how him using onlyfans is a boundary of mine that I wouldn’t want him to use which he agreed about. That was in the beginning I asked him last year if he was using it which he said no. I check his phone about a week ago and saw he had been using it for 2 years behind my back. This isn’t the first time where he’s broken my trust I had given him a bj about a year ago and caught him looking at a photo of another girl. That totally destroyed me. I don’t know if I can forgive this recent thing. Realistically he treats me awful. We went on holiday a few days ago and it all got to much for me I tried to say I didn’t want it anymore and he started crying asking for me to give him a change. But I’m sure we all know guys don’t change and when trust is broken it often can’t be fixed. So I suppose this is a rant but also he confuses me when we’re together cause he’s been so nice to me. But I can’t see it lasting it’s never does. I have to work this month here to have enough money to pay off all the rent then move back home. But in my head there’s some kinda guilt and me asking if I’m making the right choice

It’s time to pack up, go home, and leave this guy behind. You giving him another chance when he was looking at some other girl while you were going down on him.. wild! It’s fine if that’s what you agree upon but that clearly wasn’t the case. Get out! No need to feel guilty. The only guilt you should feel is towards yourself if you stay in this situation longer than you have to.

What are you staying for at this point? This man has broken your boundaries multiple times, intentionally. He obviously does not care that he does that. He does not and will not respect you and you cannot trust him. You say it yourself - he treats you badly. End the relationship, move and stop tolerating being treated like dirt. Turn all the love and respect you have for him to love and respect for yourself, you deserve better and you know it. Don’t bother wasting your time and energy feeling bad and guilty - where’s his guilt for treating you horrendously time and time again??? If anyone should feel bad it’s him. You don’t need to feel bad for treating yourself with more respect than he has for you. Go back to your family and friends ❤️

I would personally pack up and go back home, one thing I learned in relationships you don’t have anything if you don’t have trust because trust is such a basic necessity of a relationship a relationship is very much built on trust alone… and he broke that which would lead me to question every damn thing, what else has he lied about if he can lie about something so simple? busting in tears when someone tells you how you are making them feel is absolutely crazy.

@Ambeeeeee123 you need to leave him in this situation I am sorry, some things can’t be moved past especially when it’s broken down your self esteem, your relationship will not be the same and won’t recover. You need to find someone who respects you because he clearly doesn’t. Wishing you the best

You set your boundaries and he stepped over that line. That’s all the reason you need. The bj thing is horrible as well. What an ass.

Omg I wouldn’t tolerate the bj thing and would never give him one again! Stand on ur boundaries and leave this guy he disrespected you beyond forgiveness. If you stay he isn’t going to change and is just going to continue to break ur trust.

This is the opportunity to teach yourself self-respect. He absolutely has zero respect for you but that doesn’t matter, he’s a waste. Respect yourself girl, leave.

Girl stand up. This man has no respect for you.