PLEASE READ!!!! hi, i am on microgynon and have been for 6 months now, i have been with my boyfriend for 9 months so obviously started the pill after i was with him, ive noticed a pattern in myself where i am not as attracted to him when im on the pill, however in my break week i am attracted to him more? whenever im on the pill i lose feelings and its really strange. i’ve seen some stuff about coming off the pill can make you lose feelings but never going on it? seriously considering going off the pill because of this, but ik he doesn’t want to use condoms, i’ve said abt coming off the pill to him and he said if im going to be happier when im off it then i should do it which he tells me consistently cus there is a visible change in me when im on the pill. i want to go on non hormonal birth control but the only form of that is the iud which im not getting because that sounds terrifying lol. wondering has anyone else been through a similar experience or heard something similar bc i dont want to ruin our relationship just because of this but he has noticed it and idk what to do because i dont want to come off the pill. advice pleaseeeee?

You could possibly try a different pill if you’re interested in that, otherwise if you come off the pill and he doesn’t use condoms you’re at risk for pregnancy (also if he refuses to use condoms when you want him to that’s a huge red flag) otherwise you could try other methods of contraceptive like progestin only ones (the shot, the iud, the arm implant, or progestin only pills)

It seems like you might just be hornier on your break weeks?? Birth control can lower your libido. Sounds like that’s what’s happening. (This also occurs naturally when we get our periods lots of women are hornier during that week) But it doesn’t make you ‘lose feelings’ about someone. It also does take around 6 months or more to adjust to being on the pill. If you don’t like the side effects of this pill I’d recommend trying a different one. But that one will come with its own set of side effects. I use the nuvaring and really love it.

@stinaaa it’s not just that i’m hornier on my break week, i am hornier but i actually feel more physically attracted to him when im not on the pill, and it’s not like i’ve lose feelings for him completely i just don’t really feel attracted to him and things he does gives me the ick, i know that’s bad, but i never get the ick when i come off the pill

@Monkeybutt63 he would use condoms if i came off but earlier i said to him abt coming off the pill which is a conversation we have a lot of the time and he never says he has a problem using condoms but this time i actually told him im coming off after this pack is done and he got mardy and said that he wouldnt have sex with me but like kind of in a jokey way??? but anyway i got mad and then he said he would but he said if get worse dick then it’s because he’s got to wear a condom??? almost like he’s trying to make me stay on the pill but he knows how unhappy it makes me

@erobertson45 run, just run, there is absolutely no reason he should be trying to manipulate you into staying on birthcontrol for his benefit, and what he’s doing telling you that it’s going to be worse because he has to wear a condom is manipulation. You rightfully should be mad. Personally that’s what I call a boy and not a man, you deserve a man.

^^ fully agree, huge red flag that his priority is his d!ck and not your health or wellbeing. Also contraception is both partners (equal) responsibility, funny he seems to think it’s all on you??? His attitude is icky Your body your choice, do what is right for you and your health.

That’s a very manipulate thing to say. Not okay at all. It makes a bit more sense why you don’t feel as attracted to him all the time and get the ick. At the end of the day I’d do what’s best for you.

@Monkeybutt63 i know and now im definitely coming off it and if he actually gets weird about it ill break up with him but he does a lot of other things that are massive red flags too, not anymore because i called him out multiple times but he used to lie CONSTANTLY just pathetic lies that didnt even matter like saying he had a fight with someone or something? like why are u trying to big urself up you dont look cool 😭😭

@stinaaa i know i need to do what’s best for me but i actually don’t know what that is bc he’s done a lot of things that make me want to leave but then a lot of things that make me want to stay like he’s the sweetest boy but i feel like i shouldn’t be staying just because he treats me well but i feel trapped bc he’s actually bettering himself now bc he’s done a lot in the past

@bluerose9 thankyou, i’m going to come off it at the end of this pack and see how he is with me

@erobertson45 honestly sounds like he isn’t sh** and definitely doesn’t deserve you but I’m glad you’re doing what’s best for you and drawing the line if he gets weird about it