I have been with my bf 6/7 years. I dont think this relationship is for me anymore. But it is so hard for me to leave. I am literally torn in between the two. I feel like I am staying because I want love, but I feel like I have out grown this relationship. Its not advancements. Nothing. I feel like I am advancing while he’s just here. He doesnt have much going on for himself at all. I kind of get tired of him living life on repeat - work and home. No interests, no hobbies, while im doing all of these things to work on myself…I know he has the capability to do more, but he doesnt know how to put his mind over his body. I feel so frustrated. I keep crying and praying to God about this, but idk if he’s my person.

It's honestly so natural to grow out of relationships. I personally have experienced this and though it's hard I never regretted ending it. Ending the relationship was what I needed for my life to begin again rather than staying stuck. You have lots of love outside of the relationship and within yourself, you don't need to stay just for love.

^ alllll of this. My friend also felt like this and now she’s just moved into a house with her new boyfriend, she 100% made the right decision. It’s okay to choose the life you want for yourself and it’s okay to end a relationship that’s no longer making you happy or fulfilled.

Sounds like it’s time to move on. Breaking up also gives him the opportunity to get out of being comfortable and start growing on his own. I know it would be ideal if he grew with you, right, that’s what you’d want I think. That’s obviously not happening though. But there will be growth when he is alone. And the same for you of course. It will be better for both of you.

@stinaaa this! It’s a different way to look at it, in an ideal world you’d be growing together but sometimes the other person actually needs the relationship to end so that they’re forced to change their perspective and finally grow. At the end of the day, you’re doing this for you and you will get exactly what you need out of it but you obviously care about him and just know this will (hopefully) help him long term as well.