Hi guys this is gonna be long. TLDR: I’m feeling like my boyfriend doesn’t love me. To start, I completely trust my boyfriend. We’ve made it a semester with me 2 hours away at college and I’m 1 week away from being home for a whole semester where he is. We rely on phones through the week and mostly see eachother one or two weekend days. At first, we FaceTimed a decent amount, but last Monday he told me he didn’t like FaceTime and didn’t want to do it anymore. I was worried all week because he was acting slightly different. When I got home for the weekend, he had changed his screensaver from a picture of us to a random iPhone background. I asked him about it and he got defensive. We went to a movie and it was completely fine. When we’re in person, everything is so great. He said “I love you ‘more’” for the first time again in a week. I come back to school, and the next day, he ignores me for 3 hours (I see him checking snapchat) and then another 2 a little later on. I didn’t say anything about it. He fell asleep without saying goodnight. He never sends any hearts, he barely says “I love you.” Last night, I saw on snap maps he was at his guy friends. He texts me 2 hours later and says “sorry I fell asleep for a bit” and I just said “I saw your snap maps” and after that he was super sweet and sent so many hearts. Now today we’re back to him responding like maybe once an hour. He’s at home in this time, relaxing. It’s fine if he doesn’t wanna text but it’s a huge change from what it was. I’m seriously so sad. I’ve freaked out about this before and he says it’s annoying, thinking he’s gonna break up with me. But he does absolutely nothing to reassure me. Advice??

Have you asked him what’s up and if his feelings have changed? I understand I’d feel the exact same way

@Taylinnn19 he always tells me nothing is wrong and to stop feeling like he’s going to leave. He almost gets defensive ? I’m going to ask about it this weekend, because I know it will likely cause an argument and I don’t want to do that over text :(. It’s killing me waiting

Maybe try talking to him next time you’re together in person and asking if everything is ok between you two, that you’re probably overthinking but things have felt different. To me I think you might just be overthinking but I understand because I’m also intuitive and if someone is acting a little off I notice it. Is there anything going on in his life that might be causing him stress?

@tinom he is trying to decide when to graduate and pushed it back, but seems unhappy with his decision. Some growing pains are all I can think of. But thank you for your answer! Sometimes I need someone to tell me I’m overthinking, just to get me to the point where I can talk to him in person. I’m definitely going to. There’s been one other time he got snappy with me because he was stressed in his day to day life. Hopefully that’s all it is

@ls3400 I understand completely! I’ve been there, being uncertain what’s going on. What I would do is try to keep your mind occupied, try not to look at his snap maps or wait for him to reply back every hour, keep yourself busy because it’s not worth stressing over if it turns out to be nothing (which I’m sure it will). 💕

@tinom that made me tear up, thank you so much ❤️

@ls3400 Aw! Hang in there everything will be okay, please keep us posted 💕

Any update?

Sorry guys! I meant to update this after that weekend. I went home and talked to him the day after I posted this. We had a really long heart to heart and he reassured me that he does love me, but also told me it hurts him when I don’t trust that I love him. I could see his side, we both cried and the whole talk lasted around an hour. He isn’t super great at expressing when he is upset, so I think a lot had built up for him, and he was stressed about outside factors too. He proposed that he show more affection over text, and I work on trusting that everything is okay. He gave me a big hug and we laughed and just laid together for a while. I left feeling stronger than ever and really still do. He’s been doing great at sending really nice messages, telling me he misses me, and making plans. Thank you guys for all the support!❤️❤️❤️

@tiNom :)

@ls3400 that’s wonderful I’m happy for you girl! ☺️

Good I’m glad!❤️