Let’s say you know all your boyfriends friends that are girls. Random girls names come up on his Snapchat who are snap chatting him. Would you be worried and ask about it?

No, you need to trust him or leave. You second guess everything in your relationship.

It depends if they were flirting or not.

This relationship sounds exhausting, either because he is someone who is untrustworthy or because you overthink everything.

Unfortunately I overthink everything. @maeve_

I really recommend therapy and also holding yourself accountable. Put your thoughts on trial and weigh out their logic when you get a thought that you can’t help overthink. You’re going to push this man away and you’re going to exhaust yourself. It’s not good or healthy for you and seeking opinions on the internet isn’t going to help because some people will inadvertently validate your irrational thoughts.

@Emotal while I understand what you’re going though, it’s not an excuse. You can get better but you need to take the steps yourself. Nobody is going to fix you, you need to do the work. You moved on from your ex relatively quick considering what he put you though and while moving on quick is completely fine it’s causing you to bring your trauma into this relationship. If you care about this guy you need to seek out a therapist ASAP. Like @maeve_ said; you’re pushing him away.

How much time do you spend enjoying the relationship vs worrying about it? With all your posts it seems your relationship is exhausting to be in and you don’t seem to want to get professional help/work on yourself so you should just be single for now. Sorry it’s harsh but it needs to be said.