Hi, I’ve got some problems in my relationship and I would like some help: I feel bad when I’m with my boyfriend because we kinda just have sex and I would like to know him more while he’s just playing video games on his phone after it. I’m also trying to please him as best as possible and I give him advices to please me but it is like he doesn’t listen to me and keeps doing what he knows. I asked him many times to lick my bottom part and he’s like « oh no that is disgusting » like what am I doing to you all the time ? Could you please make me feel some pleasure ? He really listen to me tho so I don’t know what to think. But I never reached orgasm for now and it is kind of deceiving. But we are each other’s first time sooo, idk. I am also maybe into a guy in my class but idk because he likes someone else probably and I still like my boyfriend, just feel like I’m having sex with a stranger because we don’t do anything, we just stay in the bed and watch Netflix. Please tell me if something is not clear and sorry for the long post.

This sounds so unfair. It absolutely normal and reasonable to want more than just sex, especially in an established committed relationship. As far as him not wanting to perform oral sex for you because he finds it “disgusting” I find that deplorable and think you can find much a much better man!! Sounds like he’s only interested in himself xx

Thank you for answering ❤️

Relationships aren’t supposed to be like this. You’re not just supposed to feel like your partner only wants you around for sex and has no interest in spending quality time with you or making that sex in any way pleasurable for you. He’s selfish and disrespectful. The comment he made about giving you oral sex is so mean and rude. You clearly want different things from a relationship. If you’ve spoken to him multiple times and he hasn’t listened or even tried to change anything, he doesn’t care and isn’t going make any change. And honestly why would he, there’s been no consequences to his actions at this point. At this point you can either accept this treatment and do nothing or decide you want to be treated differently and end the relationship. You deserve a lot better.

A guy who thinks giving oral sex is "disgusting" is an immediate 👋🏽 for me. How old are you guys? It's giving 16 year old boy. No wonder you've never had an orgasm either because oral sex plays a huge role in women's pleasure

Agreed with others. Adding on, I think (this is what I did) you should maybe do other activities to develop a emotional bond. What me and my so like to do is every week we watch a movie and throughout the week we have a show we watch too. If thats not your thing, maybe have him teach or show you his video games or walk outside and talk. I always did this when me and my boyfriend would get into a “boring” phase/routine and wanna change things up. About the oral sex, this is just me I personally hate doing it, so I don’t really expect him to but we both participate anyways cuz we know it pleasures each other. So if he really loved you he would. If hes really defiant on not licking your cooch Id bring in a vibrator instead. My bad I feel emotional connection is stronger than physical as am inexperienced as well

Thank y’all, it really helps, am gonna try it