I’ve been having breakdowns for about 7 months now about not being able to get a job. It all started when my boyfriend said I need one to go on holidays with him and I agree with that, but issue is that it’s very tricky to get a job in this day and age. He also said that unless I have one/one lined up by the end of July, I can’t go on holiday with him anymore. He thinks me not having a job is going to be the thing that drives us apart. I have been out of uni for almost 2 and a half years and it is really killing me that I can’t get a job. It’s not nice being unemployed.

I understand how stressful that can be—does your city have any job fairs? Or even job agencies? Sometimes agencies is all you need to get your foot in the door at least. I would also recommend applying like crazy on indeed.

I went to a job fair last month, it was a little helpful. I have been trying to apply for jobs on various sites and I just keep getting rejected, I have been applying for the last 2 and a half years and still don’t have a job.

The problem is I don’t think there are any agencies near me. I have tried job centre and that didn’t work, I can’t receive any allowances from the government as I have too much in my savings. I feel like I’m at a dead end here.

I don't think it's fair for your boyfriend to say you "can't" go on holiday with him unless you have a job, that's your decision to make not his, especially if you have savings. The truth is the majority of jobs these days are gotten through connections and networking, have you reached out through your network? Literally parents, family friends, neighbors, anyone who can help connect you personally to an employer. Even your boyfriend, is he helping you at all?

Are you applying for something specific? Or literally anything you can find? It might be beneficial to apply to a starting position (like a receptionist or a trainee somewhere) and work your way through that just to have something. Or I know a lot of fast food is USUALLY hiring.. While that’s a sucky job, a job is a job atleast to have while you keep applying for something better.

I mean you could probably easily get a part time retail job or restaurant job. Its money? Sounds like you’re applying for something specific though. But if you need money quick, there’s always someone hiring. Especially during the holidays as it’s the busiest time of year. A book store, a clothing store, a coffee shop. It’s not the dream but it’s something to keep you on your feet while you’re looking for the full time job.

And also, Does he support you? Or has he supported you since you finished uni? I understand wanting your partner to have a job, but it is kinda cruel not to ‘allow’ you to go on vacation if you don’t have one. And you said it all started when he brought it up, sounds like your mental health went down hill because of it. Not cool. If he’s putting ultimatums up in you relationship I wouldn’t be happy.

@aurielle Well it’s more to do with the fact that my parents can’t keep paying for me to go on holiday with him, I have been on one holiday with him, but my parents paid for a bit of that as it was a graduation present from uni for me.

@stinaaa This is the issue, I have tried applying for retail jobs and not getting anywhere.

@stinaaa I met him 9 months after I had graduated from university. He does tell me not to give up on the job search despite how hard it is at the moment.