my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years and i tell him abt everything. he recently said he wants to see a psychiatrist because he’s been suspecting that he has adhd. he talked to a psychiatrist an hour ago to schedule an appointment and the doctor asked him what seems to be the problem. he said “i wanna know if i have adhd and i have other issues too that i wanna talk in person” i later asked him what those issues were and he said that it wasn’t my concern and he that he doesn’t have to tell me and that i shouldn’t get angry. i got sad and asked again but he got a bit angry and now idk what to do. we live together and i understand if he doesn’t wanna talk about his traumas in the near future or ever but he said some issues were current and idk im just stressed like i don’t tak about some of my traumas but i talk about the current things that are affecting me badly. am i expecting too much? what should i do

I think you need to respect his decision and boundaries. You may feel comfortable sharing your feelings about things happening in your life currently but that does not mean he feels the same. This all could be completely unrelated to you anyway. There are multiple reasons why he might want to discuss something with a professional before talking to you or anyone else in his life about, or discuss something with a professional and not tell anyone else after that. I don’t think pressuring him to open up is going to help anything anyway.

Therapy and mental health appointments are confidential and you're not entitled to know everything he talks about there. It's actually important and healthy for partners to have a space to express things that isn't their partner.

Sounds like your bf is handling it well as he’s reaching out for professional help. He is entitled to privacy so you should respect that, obviously it’s hard as we all want to help the people we love but it’s up to him to share with you if/when he feels comfortable, pressuring him will only make you less of a ‘safe place’ for him.

thank you all <3