I’m having issues in the bedroom 😅 I feel like I can only finish if I do it myself… for instance my bf has asked me plenty of times how to please me and how I do it and tbh he does it the same way I do it the same pace but I just can’t finish. And I get closer to finishing more whith penetration than him using his fingers on me. But I’ve never finished with penetration because if I go the pace I need to go he finishes before me and we always pull out because we’re scared my birth control isn’t gonna work for some random reason and I’ll get pregnant ( we dont use condoms, they usually break with how aggressive we both like it) and I’m like 100% sure he knows I don’t finish and it bothers him a lot but I don’t know if it’s just a me issue or if there’s something I can do about it.

I think there's nothing wrong with helping yourself finish if you need it but could you get very close and THEN have him penetrate you so you can finish faster?

I’m a very shy and awkward person as it is in the bedroom lmao I’m not sure like if I would be to shy to masturabate in front of him then have him penetrate me before I finish, although that is a very good idea so I’ll have to try that next time and maybe implement that into our bedroom routine

Does he go down on you too? I assume with fingers means clitoral stuff rather than putting them in?

He does but it doesn’t make me finish he has tried doing both using fingers/oral but still doesn’t work with fingers he puts them in still doesn’t work and he’s tried clitoral stuff with his fingers and it doesn’t work. When I do it myself I just use my fingers and put them inside and it works fine but when he does it i just can’t finish for some reason

@Daisyrange10 is it possible you're getting in your head a bit too much?

What do you mean?

Like sometimes people overthink or get a bit self-conscious when their partner is pleasuring them, or put too much pressure on themselves to finish, so there's a mental challenge to finishing that isn't there when they do it by themselves

I mean if that was the case which I have no idea if it is..it very much well could be the issue then I have no idea how to stop it