Stressed to the max. So I have this friend group and I’ve been close to all of them except one girl. This one girl is a mutual who shares the friends that I do. We don’t see eye to eye but we can get along. I’m getting married soon and asked my friend group to be in the wedding, but this doesn’t include her. I didn’t think anything of it because we aren’t close and I have closer friends that I didn’t even ask. I’m getting ready to send shower invites and the actual wedding invites and I asked her for her address and she left me on read. Then I found out from my friend group that she’s severely upset that I didn’t ask her to be in the wedding. Am I wrong for not asking her? I have close friends who they didn’t ask me to be in the wedding but I wasn’t upset.. I feel like a mean girl for not asking her but I already have 8 bridesmaids and paid for all of their dresses

No I don't think you're in the wrong at all. The fact that she feels entitled to be in your wedding just because she's in the friend group is crazy. I thought you meant you weren't going to invite her at all 😂

@aurielle I sent her a message to clear the air and she left me on read AGAIN!!! I don’t know if she’s upset because she thought we were closer or because she simply wants to just be a bridesmaid for her own selfish need. Like the bachelorette is coming up and maybe that’s why she’s upset because she’s not invited to that?? But again, I have closer friends that I didn’t ask/ invite to the bachelorette so idk I just feel bad and upset because this is something that I get to be celebrated for and I hate feeling like I did something to someone that was mean when I didn’t intend for that.

@Sparkles14 You’re not being mean at all. It’s your wedding, you get to choose who you include in your wedding party. I have a close group of friends, similar to you, where I’d have certain girls be part of the wedding party but not others. If she takes it to heart, that’s not your fault. And honestly, if she’s not responding to your messages, I would personally stop reaching out. You didn’t do anything wrong.

@Bananass do you think it’s awful of me to not invite her now because of this? In my opinion - I don’t want someone to come to my special events that is supposed to be happy and meaningful if she is making this about her because she simply just wants to be a bridesmaid. I hope I don’t sound like a bridezilla lol

@Sparkles14 if you've already asked for her address to invite her I do think it would he kind of rude to un-invite her at this point

@aurielle I totally get that but she hasn’t even responded with her address, just left me on read. So to me, it’s like she doesn’t want to be invited or am I being rude still? Totally open to feedback with this!!

i honestly just wouldn’t push it and would leave it at that, if she doesn’t give you her address, you can’t give her an invite, if she does, give one to her but maybe have a conversation with her about how you feel🤷🏻‍♀️

you arent in the wrong at all. i also have a friend group like this where the one girl yeah we are “friends” but not close and dont text, hang out or anything alone but we invite eachother to the group things. i personally think a bridal shower should be people you are very close with!

So update for all - I sent her one more follow up text because a bad trait of mine is not being okay if someone is mad at me and I essentially was like “the ball is in your court and I would love to talk this out” and told my friend group was going on and they told me I was out of line for sending the follow up text and she ended up responding confirming she was upset about not being asked and some other things. My friend group said it was a very mature response on her end. So now I feel like the mean girl!!! UGH weddings are so stressful

You were out of line but her response was mature?? Wow. I would have just not invited her. Out of ALL the things you could be stressing about wedding wise, it’s some b you don’t even get along with? Naaah boo your day is more important than her entitlement.

@stinaaa thank you for this!!!

You’ve done all you can, time to move on from the situation. Your friend group also made clear whose side they’re on here. 🙄

Honestly friend groups are hard because it’s unlikely you will be close with or like everyone. It’s your wedding and your friends should respect that rather than make it about someone else.

This is a tricky situation but her leaving you on read twice was rude af. It’s your wedding, she’s allowed to be a bit upset if she feels left out but the way she has handled this is very immature, this your day and your once in a lifetime situation, not hers. Idk why your friends are so on her side and acting like you’re in the wrong, because I personally think being upfront and directly addressing the issue like you have is a lot more respectful and mature than her sulking, being rude and ignoring you. Honestly if that’s how she’s treating you I wouldn’t continue to make an effort with her. If she sends you her address send an invite but that’s the last invite I’d be sending her.