Hey everyone! Hope all is good for yourselves. Lately I have bee been struggling with wanting to be intimate with my partner. I have had a bit of a thought time the past few weeks due to my Cat passing away and trying to adjust to not having a pet anymore as it was unexpected. I have struggled both currently and the past few weeks to want to have sex or to feel in the mood but there is nothing. I know my partner wants too and try’s to initiate however I find it’s always in a joking kind of way nothing to make me want to sleep with him which puts me off and makes me isolate myself from the situation a bit. I have tried to communicate that I don’t like the way he approaches it sometimes. He’s just can’t understand how to make me in the mood or satisfy me properly in the bedroom. I have communicated this too him but he doesn’t really listen. I’m not sure how his past relationships went but I know that he was cheated on in the past. Makes me think was it the same reasoning. I have no thoughts of being deceitful or looking for satisfaction elsewhere just a bit stuck. Any advice would be helpful.

Have you said it to him exactly like you have said it here? Has the issue with him not being able to get you in the mood or satisfy you been a recent thing or has it always been like that? Does he normally not listen to you properly? The mental and emotional side of things is a huge part of sex and if you don’t feel comfortable, listened to, understood or supported I’m not surprised you’re not interested in having sex with him 🫠

You just lost your cat, give yourself a break. I definitely wouldn't feel like having sex just a few weeks after that happening.