Hi everybody I broke up with my boyfriend around 6 days ago, because I understood that it wasn’t healthy for neither of us There was starting to be resentment between us and unresolved issues so I told him we should separate on the mutual understanding that we tried but didn’t work out, he gave me my things everything was okay.. He told me if he’ll see me with another guy he’ll beat him up and that out of respect for him I shouldn’t be with another guy for the next week atleast not in places he hangs around often, I respected it and then I saw him with another chick.. I don’t care too much, I’m really happy for him if she makes him happy but I feel that it was so hypocritical.. He also told me not to go on tinder for atleast a week out of respect , I went on tinder 3 days ago and saw his profile (he went on before me) and I just honestly am really shocked I’m trying to now focus on myself and be a better person and learn from my mistakes from this relationship before I get into a new one, I also don’t want to make my ex jealous I would never purposely kiss a guy in front of him with the intention of pissing him off.. I just feel a little hurt because I thought we were on the same page.. I do also feel hurt because how are you already with a new girl after 4 days? :( I am feeling a little bit lost but ofcourse I know I’ll feel better with time A lot of people who know both of us were firstly very shocked that we ended breaking up, and are also shocked he’s already with a new girl What are your guys’ opinions?:) Also throughout our relationship he always talked down on women who engage in only fans and who work at strip clubs etc … this Russian girl works at the local strip club here I feel physically ill when I think about it (emotionally wise, I would never degrade another woman, I mean about him) :(

You made the right decision. As you’re now broken up he has no say in what you do or who you see, telling you what you can or can’t do is controlling. Threatening violence is totally unacceptable and scary. Definitely focus on yourself and try not to watch what he’s doing or anything he says or does personally. If anyone in your life is keeping you updated on what he’s doing, ask them to stop, and mute/block/remove him off social media. Sounds like you are a really lovely, mature and level headed person so I think you’ll be fine! it will just take a bit of time x

You can do what you want. Don’t listen to his demands. He can’t determine what you can or cannot do. If he actually tries to get physical with a guy you’re with you should get the authorities involved.

His hypocrisy just goes to show that you shouldn't follow his stupid "rules" about when you can or can't start dating again or use dating apps since clearly they're just an attempt to control you since he's allowed to do whatever he wants. The fact that he demeans women who do sex work just shows how misogynistic he was, it was definitely the right decision to break up with him.

You did the right thing!! I was in a similar situation when I broke up with my ex. He was a narcissist and hypocrite. You do you girl!! Do what makes you happy. If that means seeing a new guy then do it! Don’t let what your ex said control you. You are your own person!

Thank you all ! I’m feeling a little bit better and hopefully time will heal all I’m very glad I ended it and got to see his real side

Wow, he’s a real piece of work! You dodged a bullet. He sounds controlling, jealous, and not the person for you long term at all. Congrats to you for making a difficult decision in leaving the relationship. That is so hard to do and many people stay in those toxic relationships for much too long. Cheers to you for breaking the cycle and recognizing you deserve better! You can get back on the apps or go out with whoever and whenever you want, regardless of what he asked. It was compassionate of you to agree to “wait” as it shows your genuine character in wanting to not hurt someone. But in the end, you’re never responsible for someone else’s feelings. If he wants to feel jealous and upset seeing you with another guy he has that right, and you are not responsible for him projecting himself because of his own insecurities.