@aurielle unfortunately my view on porn consumption in a relationship isn’t going to change. While I wish I could be okay with it, it makes me feel deflated and undesired when my boyfriend doesn’t initiate anything sexual with me but jumps at his first opportunity to masturbate to porn. If it didn’t affect our sex life at all then perhaps I wouldn’t be so bothered by it, but he’s clearly not as attracted to me and during sex he struggles to finish due to what I assume is the use of porn altering his perspective of sex in a relationship. Furthermore, we have videos of us having sex which he could use to masturbate, but he doesn’t. So he doesn’t have sex with me and he doesn’t masturbate to me. That’s my issue. While I understand your perspective of porn is based on your usage, I believe my boyfriend doesn’t watch it with the mindset that it will benefit our sex life.