if your bf was going to amsterdam with a bunch of his guy friends, would you be hurt if they plan on going to a peep show? just curious as he can watch the same stuff on porn, but porn does make me uncomfortable but i also know it’s unrealistic to ask him to stop watching it as i can’t monitor that all the time and will probably just create tension

Me and my bf, as well as his friend and his gf watched a peep show when we went recently. If your not comfortable with it, then he should respect that. Most people who were watching were couples and groups of boys.

I have a look, tip well, and don’t touch rule. Every couple is different, have a conversation about it and see where it goes.

I think it’s pretty disrespectful while in a relationship but as said above all couples are different. As for the porn thing it is not disrespectful to ask ur bf to stop watching porn, but instead of asking him find someone who actually respects you and doesn’t watch it. It will be better for you I think if you aren’t comfortable with him attending a peep show you really need to speak up about it. Your bf should respect how you feel.

Interesting that you’re okay with porn that is defo not normal in a relationship, think about it this way u have a shiny new car at home that’s yours but u still wanna go out and rent the broken up car 😓u deserve better girl my bf would never !! Find someone who thinks you’re enough

@Athome799 it is normal and describing women and sex workers as cars is a horrible and dehumanizing analogy...

@aurielle i don’t think that’s what they meant, they were using an example of what it’s like. and like the other comments said, if you feel uncomfortable with your bf watching porn he should stop no matter if you can ‘monitor’ it he should respect it and not be sneaky about it

In my relationship so long as he tips well and doesn’t touch then I don’t care.

I think if you are feeling uncomfortable by it than you deserve to share that with him and open up a conversation about it. A relationship is truly a partnership & it is very important to have our feelings validated in partnerships so we feel understood. It will likely make you feel better to share your reservations about it as well. Anytime I have found myself uncomfortable with something I find it very very helpful to share that with my partner and talk through it so we are on the same page.

@aurielle they shouldn’t be doing sex work if you’re okay with sex work as a woman u need to go back and time and realise how it ruins woman’s life and harms them we’ve went back in time not forward !!

@athome799 you should speak to sex workers before making those statements

@Athome799 strong disagree. Sex work is work, sexism is what ruins women's lives not sex work. I support women's right to choose their work and do it with dignity. And even if you don't agree with sex work that does NOT give you the right to disrespect the women who do it by calling them broken down cars.