Sorry to ask again, but can someone help me on my last post?

Your post asking how to know when you’re protected? You’re protected after 7 days of taking the pill correctly.

@bLUerose9 no it started with TW: harassment. I can repost it, maybe it didn’t post?

@Emotal it’s not showing up for me

It’s not showing for me either x

Thank you! I’ll delete and repost.

Posting here: TW: mental abuse, harassing Years ago, I was in the worst state of my whole life (after a bad abusive relationship) when I started my first job. I got assigned a mentor who was 20 years older than me at my first job (I was young). He basically harassed me and manipulated me until he wanted me to be sexual with him (no sex). He told me that h and his wife have a “friendship” marriage. I know this was completely wrong and I admit that. I’ve cried and told him no a crazy amount of times, he would touch me under the desk while mentoring me at my job, I would walk off and cry and come back and do it again. I admit we did things that I am NOT proud of and will never in my life be doing that again. This was completely wrong. Eventually I reported him to the company and I left the company for a different better opportunity. Is this something I need to admit to my current partner that happened?

I am so sorry that this happened to you, it doesn’t sound like you did absolutely anything wrong. There’s nothing you need to admit to your partner. If you want to tell him that’s your decision, but there’s never anything about your past that you “owe” him transparency about.

@grazydol8 thank you so much. You’re right. I just feel awful for doing something with someone who has a wife. It was so wrong, but obviously I’ve learned my lesson. I felt so lost when I did this and didn’t know what to do. Felt very manipulated into this and made me feel like “I liked him” and needed him.

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You did nothing wrong, it sounds like all of that was done against your wishes and without your consent. You are not to blame for any part of that person’s actions, they took advantage of you being under their power. You don’t need “admit” anything as you didn’t do anything wrong. You don’t need to say or share anything with anyone that you don’t feel comfortable sharing.

@bLuerose9 thank you so much. I just feel awful for doing things with him, in the moment I felt like I wanted to but at the same time I kept telling him it’s wrong but he continued. I was just all over the place, manipulated and he was def in the position of power. It was awful.

It’s giving me anxiety just talking about this and “reliving” it

Agree you didn’t do anything wrong so you need to try to let go of the guilt, you were much younger, vulnerable and he was in a superior position, he used that to manipulate you. Have you ever spoken to a therapist about this? You don’t need to tell your current partner anything, it just depends if you feel comfortable sharing with him and think it’ll help you to share x

I'm so sorry that happened to you. It was not your fault and you shouldn't feel guilty for it (easier said than done, I know). You also don't have to talk about it to your partner if you don't want to. You don't owe it to anyone to talk about traumatic things that have happened to you, especially if talking about them makes you feel bad and anxious. It could definitely be beneficial to talk about things like these to people you're close to, but don't feel like you need to push yourself to do it. Everyone's healing journey is different and I truly hope you can heal from that horrible experience

Thank you so much for all the advice. You have no idea how much I appreciate all the great people on this forum! @bAbybarbarab @aWG1 @bLUErose9 @grAzydol8