Hi guys. I don’t know if this is TMI. I haven’t been on this app for a longggg time and I’ve forgotten the ?? Can’t remember the word courtesy?? Idk anyway.. so… when you guys climax/c*m whatever you wanna call it - does anything come out???? It’s hard being a girl in this day obviously with all the p*rn and stuff I never know what’s real and what isn’t.. I can’t sq*irt never have been able to and i definitely don’t have any actual c*m either.. or white or anything idk? Like sometimes i get slightly wetter…. But that’s about it?

Yes, when men ejaculate the white stuff that comes out is their cum or ejaculation. Some women can squirt and others can’t. You can come without squirting. Some women also do have white stuff when they’re having sex or after they come. It’s not like men where it shoots out but usually it’s on the outside of the condom or on the penis itself. It’s usually just from being wet, like you said.

For me, no. Nothing comes out. I can get wet. And I’ve squirted once. But that’s about it. Don’t look into porn that much. Even the cum from guys is fake in some videos. That’s not ‘real life’ sex. It’s suppose to be extra and stimulating. I never make as many sounds as they do 🤣

@stinaaa HOW did you squirt? I know it’s so not important but I just feel so insecure not being able to idk why

Porn is not realistic. I’m pretty sure the majority of women cannot squirt so you’re in the majority.

Squirting is really rare. If anything, your partner would be the one to feel insecure for not being able to make you squirt lol

I do have white stuff but it’s not like the amount men do or anything. Never squirted and really have no interest in it lol. Porn is not realistic.

I have never had anything come out and I’ve never squirted either. I just get wetter. I wouldn’t worry about it

@maeve_ well he’s told me his ex could so that’s great to know🤣 and I’ve never been able to do it with any partners :(

@Xoxoxaaa I’ve only been able to squirt with 2 partners but they both knew what they were doing and specifically tried to make me squirt. I can make myself squirt but only if I also use a butt plug.

@maeve_ girl HOWWW like I have tried everything myself and I can’t even do it so I’ve got no chance on trying to get a partner to

@Xoxoxaaa one guy would stop mid sex and would push down on my pelvis and finger me and it always made me squirt. He always said he could feel when I needed to. If you stick your finger in and go towards your pelvis you feel like a spongy ball? Idk how to explain it lol like curve your finger. They stimulate that. I would always pee before too.

Yeah so some guy I slept with knew what he was doing haha. He even had his bed a waterproof cover over his bed. Like he had a plan and it worked lol. I’ve never been able to do it myself. But I can tell what it feels like when I feel close to it.

It just feels like you’re peeing. It’s not that great, makes a mess too. But if they know how to do it they can probably make you. But I think it takes practice and knowing how to work a vagina 💁🏽‍♀️

@stinaaa I’ve been with my bf for 2 years so I’d like to think we know eachother enough, but it’s never happened for me with any long or short term partners - or by myself. I can orgasm, but I genuinely feel broken. I literally can only do it if I’m on my back and legs out straight like tensed almost, and my boyfriend rubbing clit. Can’t do it from sex or anything :/ that’s why I’m so hung up on this squirting thing. I know porn isn’t reliable / real but squirting is so like big on there and throughout life all boys have ever asked me is can you squirt, obviously because of porn I know but the fact other girls can do it and I can’t I just feel so like unsexy almost.. especially since like I said I have to basically lay down like a plank to orgasm.. not very attractive. And the fact my boyfriends said he made another girl do it, I overthink and always think he’d rather be with her because she could

I definitely think this subject might be getting the best of you. Sex should be enjoyable. You should be relaxed and excited. Not worried that you can’t finish a certain way. No body is the same. Just because someone can do one thing doesn’t mean someone else can do the same. Learn to love what you can do. Don’t compare yourself as that’s just stealing your joy. Squirting is really not that common and some women never squirt. That’s totally normal! And cumming how you cum is normal too. If you keep up with this mindset you’ll never be happy. Comparing your sex to porn? Not realistic as many have said. It’ll only bring you down. You’re not broken. You’re perfectly fine. Lots of women need clitoral stimulation to cum. Penetration is not enough. Do you have any toys? That might help. I enjoy vibrators.

I only squirt when I’m being fingered & when my man goes down on me while fingering, with an actual penis? NEVER. lol

^^ and ONLY my current partner was able to do that he could finger me forever 🥹

@Xoxoxaaa sex isn't a performance or a competition where you have to do things a certain way to be sexy. Focus on your pleasure and what your body enjoys instead of fixating on the things you "can't" do. It's not a sport.

@aurielle but obviously I want to be sexy for my partner too

@Xoxoxaaa your partner should find you sexy just the way you are!

@Xoxoxaaa if all your self worth is tied to the fact whether you can squirt or not that is really bad. You should open up to self love. Therapy and self help books can help.

@Yi_eune I’ve been cheated on in every relationship I’ve ever been in, and every boy I have ever spoken to has asked if I can do it and gone on about how other girls can. I’ve had therapy. It hasn’t worked

@Xoxoxaaa do you trust your current boyfriend?

@Yi_eune he’s cheated on me also, so no🤣

@Xoxoxaaa I think your problem here is that you’re dating and staying with 💩 men. Why are you with him? He doesn’t respect you and you don’t trust him. You can’t be with someone you don’t trust. You aren’t the problem, the guys are. Staying with men that cheat on you just shows they can get away with that behaviour. Do yourself the favour and get away from him and really focus on yourself until you’ve healed from these cheating pieces of 💩..

@Yi_eune to be honest I think because it keeps happening in every relationship, I have no self worth and I’ve just accepted that every man will do it to me. He cheated on me 2 years ago, I know it makes no difference, but we have been good and had no issues since. But I still have very deep routed insecurities

@Xoxoxaaa I know you said therapy doesn’t work but I think you should try again. You won’t heal by whatever you’re doing now. You shouldn’t just accept it either. I genuinely think you need to work on your self love and learn you are a baddie that nobody should mess with and if they do it’s their loss, not yours. You deserve the world!!

@Yi_eune I’ve had 5 therapists over the course of 5 years, I’ve had hypnotherapy, CBT and honestly feel no different after it all. I appreciate all your kind words 🫶🏼

@Xoxoxaaa start doing the things that make you happy, try new hobbies, really focus on your own happiness. Things you’d enjoy by yourself. Really become your own best friend ❤️

@Yi_eune thank you x

Healing doesn't just happen by yourself although healing your relationship with yourself is extremely important, but healing happens in relation so I think that experiencing a truly healthy relationship would be really good for you and also having healthy relationships with friends. Unfortunately you are never gonna experience that if you stay with a guy who cheated on you so the first step to get to healing is to leave him.

@aurielle I don’t have any friends, which is probably another reason why I stay in bad relationships