I just broke up with my boyfriend tonight. Background, my boyfriend and I had been together for 2 years. In the beginning of our relationship, we were living in the same city and always got to spend time with each other. We were both working on our careers and encouraging each other to work hard. Throughout the first year of our relationship, I noticed differences between us like communication style, how reserved he was, his style, his views, taste in music, etc. I thought I could see past those things and compromise. Halfway through the first year, he moved to a different city for his new job. We try to make it work by me driving over to his place or he drives over to see me. This year made our second year together and we went through a couple of disagreements and arguments from the first year carrying through the second year, but don’t get me wrong we had great moments between them. However, I started to feel like I was disconnected from him in the relationship. I felt like we were starting to feel incompatible, and with that feeling, I started to feel frustrated with him when I brought it up to his attention. He felt betrayed and upset towards me for feeling that way. He said he would work on making me happy, but I still felt in my heart throughout the last month that something just didn’t feel right. I felt like we were not going to last very long in the relationship. I started to avoid him by taking longer times to responding back to his messages and asking him if I could have some time to myself. I felt like a different person compared to how I was in the beginning of our relationship. He’s a very heartfelt person, so he said he understands but later that day called and messaged me. This is not the first time this situation happened, so I started to resent him for disregarding my boundaries. I blew up on him through messaging and later called him to apologize. Three days ago we got into the same disagreement about me wanting space and that’s when today I called him to end our relationship of two years. I felt absolutely terrible for breaking his heart. He’s a good guy, but I felt like deep down that our relationship was not going to last long and that I needed the time to grow to figure myself out. I just feel heartless for breaking up with him and letting things go.It’s hard.
