does anyone have any tips on how to not be anxious when hes about to go in? the first couple of times me and my boyfriend had sex i was fine but ever since ive been on the pill ive been really anxious about having sex like its going to hurt and it kind of gives me the heebie jebies. ive also always got the heebie jebies about fingering/ masturbation and have only ever been comfortable witj my boyfriend going down on me or rubbing. is this normal??!!

Well in my experience being on the pill hasn’t changed how sex feels for me, so it shouldn’t hurt or anything. That being said having him wear protection even though you’re on the pill provides another layer of comfort and protection. It’s totally normal and you’re allowed to take it at your own pace. No is a complete sentence as well. If you feel u comfortable you don’t have to have sex. You can even say no in the middle if you’re not feeling it anymore. But I also feel like forplay is the best thing to start feeling comfortable and get into the mood as well. Start with kissing and touch in safe places such as the collarbone and back and see how you feel as you go. You’re completely normal and valid in your feelings! ❤️

I think it's completely normal to prefer oral and touching over penetration, those tend to feel best for me as well and if you don't like vaginal penetration you don't have to do it!