Ever since my boyfriend came back from his work trip he’s been SO distant from me. Before, he was much more affectionate and loving towards me and complemented me and couldn’t keep his hands off me. But after he came back from the work trip that all changed. He doesn’t say “I love you” often anymore, he just seems annoyed at me, he’s fine not seeing me .. I’m confused and I am not sure how I bring this up to him. I should also note that he started taking Zyns (nicotine packs) and started vaping 3 months ago. I read online that it can affect a man’s sex drive. If that’s the case I’m not sure what to do. Any suggestions? Thoughts?

You should just straight up ask him if you’ve done anything wrong, can’t keep guessing you’ll drive yourself mad.

@seechell I know I tend to do that bc I don’t wanna start conflict .. something i definitely need to work on. I just sit there guessing and end up loosing my mind. thank you for the reply

I understand, conflict is definitely not a fun thing but believe me if it’s for the right reasons sometimes conflicts need to be created for you to really figure out and understand what’s going on, just think of it as a conflict for a ‘good’ cause because the concerns you have are very much valid. 🤍

@seechell you’re so sweet. Your reply’s helped me feel so much better. Thank you

I definitely agree with @sEEchell, and I think you definitely deserve an answer as to why hes been this way towards you.

@Liv420 if your first instinct is that you’ll be scared of a conflict rather than being able to have a normal conversation with him says a lot about the relationship you’re in. If you can’t have a very normal conversation like this one then it isn’t worth continuing. You deserve answers and to be treated right.

Having to walk on eggshells because of your partner is a big red flag. 🚩